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Going back to school at 35

2011-10-22T16:41:00.000-04:00

I finnally dicided that I would bight the bullet and go back to school. I have felt that I have so much to offer the work force, but no degree to obtain the jobs that truely paid me for my worth.

I couldnt simply make them pay me more (that would have been nice) I decided that I needed to make changes for myself. So here I am 35 and going back to school online at Devry University my degree is Electronics Engineering technology with a focus in renewable energy.

When I saw this degree offered, it simply made since. The future of this field seems endless. With electronics in every aspect of our lives today, and renewable energy in the forfront of all of our minds. It could only be the best dicision I could make.

I am now 5 classes in, and doing awesome, I am on the Deans List, and loving every minute of it.

How do we Cope part 2

2011-07-29T21:40:00.001-04:00

Take a breath!!!!

As you may have noticed it has been well over 6/7 almost 8 months since my last post. This is for good reason.

I have been breathing...... My struggle with my family/ people who were there for the first part of my life is just that breathing. One of the steps that I have had, and continue to take, is to move forward.

The last months/ years/ centuries has been moments/ years/ centuries that have shown me that i have come to terms with this through my fits of rage and moments of anger. All to no avail, my fits of rage were preformed in front of an audiance who bought tickets and then never showed up. My songs of fury fell on deaf ears.

Its hard to grasp your reality without a foundry to base yourself upon. And what I know, is that I am so very tired of thinking, I could never be Picasso because I like to paint, nor could I be Frank Sinatra because I like to sing. The very simple fact of the matter is i like to paint, and I like to sing..... and this is valid.

My struggle has not ended, nor will it ever..... but this is life, and it is a GREAT LIFE TO LIVE!!!!!

How is it that we cope. With all that we have to cope with! Part 1

2011-01-09T17:57:00.001-05:00

Often times, I think about how it would be to exist in a sureal reality of existance. In a perfect world where all things were nothing less than perfect. All things that I am as a woman, as a lesbian, are more than perfect. My family, in this sureal existance, is perfect. My partner, is perfect. All things that I need to expericence in life, is perfect.

Perfection is but a dream. A place where I can escape, because in fact things are not perfect as I might like them to be. In walks realty, in walks the imperfections of things that simply are.

My Family: I always thought that as a child I could always rely on them. I don't think that I thought of them as family necessarily, I simply knew them to be the people to rely on. There was no second guessing, maybe a little testing sometimes, but somehow I always knew I could rely on them.

Although I know I must have been a handful gowing up, adopted, opinionated, and oh so full of fire. I always felt this burn in the back of my mind. I knew somehow they would never accept me, the way they accepted their own children. This burn could be equivilated to being adopted, or being gay, or just simply the dynamics of this family. Who really knows what this was but my sister and I used to hover in corners together, wondering the very same things. Not out of fear but out of knowing.

Knowing as a child is so very simple, you know things that now seem somehow muddled by life and by perceptions, and just things.

But the perceptions that my sister and I knew back then as children, are utterly profound to me as an adult. I somehow knew as a child that I should question what it was that my paents represented to me. I don't know if it was a misrepresentation of parenting, or of being adopted. We found that in our childhood perception, of coveting each other and knowing that they were something else, may be it was the perception of our age, or our gender, but more likely we were just perception our placement.

The homophobic family lineup :) Call a spade a spade :)

2011-01-01T20:01:00.001-05:00

I grapple with talking about this, as I dont want to out anyone as anything they wish not to be seen as. But here it is, when you make yourself something you wish not to be seen as, then you may be subjected too being outed :) yes there is a pun in there

My Homophic family, who sees gay and lesbians as petaphiles, who hasn't talked to their lesbian daughter in 2 decades..... Your closet has been opened.
Homophbia is NOT ok.

Why oh Why are Americans So Damn Stupid...... We are Just a bunch of followers

2010-11-04T17:43:00.000-04:00

In recent Months/ Years I have come to beleive that America (the bulk not all) are all a bunch of followers we are being led by the media, and who ever else leads us to the left and to the right. Which ever way they choose for us to be led, it will be done.

When are we going to start thinking for ourselves. Is this not a goverment for the people and by the people.

I have been thinking this on several different levels, for many different reasons. As of recent the specific thing that is getting my goat is that we are screaming and hollering about Obama not turning this economy around. I say to you "How the hell is this economy supposed to be turned around in a matter of two years". So as Americans we say to ourselves lets change the power structure of our nation, to a Republican majority..... That will fix it!!!!

Give me a break, are we so absent minded of thought that we cant remember it was a Republican president who got us into this mess in the first place.

I say it is time to start thinking for ourselves turn off the fucking news and start making up your own damn mind. Stop listeening to these lying politicans who dont have your interest in mind, and take a hold of your own damn future.

Im Just saying.........

Silence is golden...... don't makes waves unless you are willing to ride the rapids......FOOD For Thought Food 4 Thought

2010-10-31T01:21:00.001-04:00

The things that are said that are so very true. Silence is golden, penny saved is a penny earned, six in one half dozen the other.......... don't look a gift horse in the mouth....... a step in time saves nine...... penny wise pound savy....... bet you dollars to donuts (just said that today).... don't bite the hand that feeds you...... don't shit where you eat...... you make the bed you lie in..... shit or get off the pot......

These words of wisdoms are so true...... you can place them in any given situation, and you can very assuradly find a truth in one, if not all, of these key phrases that give sanity in your walk about life.....

With this self assuradness of the sanity in your walk about life, is there not a moment that you might question these things that have been said, these things that you have found self evendent?

Are there not moments in which these things might be true, and you might also look beyond these truths of things you have learned and things that you find to be true in order to find the truth?

Are we so absent of mind to think that we can be deminished to a catch phrase in time? Captured catch phrases, were all thought rings true is a stereotype of the ages. Catch phrases that I hear myself say every day in my very head...... Phrases that have been instilled in me, for reasons not even my echoers could even understand.

THIS IS JUST FOOD FOR THOUGHT!!!!

Lesbian Consumer Review Motorola Cliq xt with TMobile Service. 5 Stars or 3 Stars

2010-10-13T15:56:00.001-04:00

I love having this new phone, it really has unlimited usage.

We were out in the woods with some friends of ours playing on a ropes course, and one of our friends wanted to time herself on the course. So I whip out my phone and download a stopwatch ap and presto, we were able to time each other on the course. My partner had her phone and she videoed while I was timing our friend. Really these phones are freaking amazing.

Downside. If you don't have the unlimited web feature, the phone really acts silly. At times it will shut off, it will pretend it doesn't understand what you want it to do. But once you get the web2go feature all of those annoying problems disappear.

5 stars if you have the web2go
3 stars if you don't have the web2go

Cheers!!!!!!!

Fuck you very much Lily Allen Song, Fight Homophobia with HILARIOUS SONGS

2010-10-12T15:29:00.001-04:00

FCKH8! Buy a shirt and Support Gay Marage

2010-10-09T00:24:00.004-04:00

I for one, am tired of being Mrs. Nice Gay. If you feel the same way... check out this site!

http://fckh8.com/

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Positive Thinking makes Positive things happen

2010-10-05T17:39:00.001-04:00

It is very possible that I have learned this time and time again, but I really feel like, I relearn it every time it directly effects me.
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If you think positively about any given situation then you will receive positive results. In general I think that I am too overwhelmed with BULLDHIT of everyday life to be able to place my mind in a positive mind frame. But when I do, I can actually see the looks on people's face change from "Crinkled face" to a face that is completely understanding of the words I am saying.

This is not exactly what I am talking about but lets take A pile of poop on a city street. I could very easily say "Some mother fucker is so fucking inconsiderate that he is willing to let that shit just lye there, after he shat it out of his nasty fucking ass" or I could say, "wow, someone really had to go # 2" The first statement doesnt really change the situation of the poop, and it gets me and everyone around me riled up. The second doesn't change the situation of the poop either, but it makes myself and everyone around me, say..... "oh yeah, poor pooper" and allows us to go on about our day without getting all riled up.

POSITIVE THINKING MAKES POSITIVE THINGS HAPPEN.

It is important to think about the things that you can not change, and have the strength to not allow them to effect you. Focus positively on the things that you can change, and with a positive attitude, positive things will happen.

I'm Over It, Crazy Families, When your mother, cant even be called your friend

2010-09-27T20:58:00.003-04:00

Last night was my sister’s family gathering for cake and ice cream with (part) of my family. I have to say my Partner and I weren’t necessarily ‘looking forward’ to the party. There would be family there I hadn’t seen in a while and were excited to see. There was also some family there that I really had no desire to see…like my mother. Her and I just haven’t gotten along over the last 2 years or so. Before that, she was practically my best friend. I know, you’re wondering what the hell happened??

I guess to make a VERY long and complicated story rather short and less complicated, let’s just say that I once had my eyes closed….and now they are open. My mother has made some decisions regarding my (younger) sister and myself that I now disagree with. Just really the kind of person she is, is not someone who is healthy for my family and me. So we haven’t spoken much over the last 2 years, and that fact doesn’t much bother me. I an, however, working to make my relationship with my sister a little better. We were a little rocky there for a minute, but it seems we are working it out now. Hence the reason my Partner and I were attending the birthday party, and willingly putting ourselves right out there in shark infested waters.

My sister, my Partner and myself were just taking care of a few odds and ends in the house, getting it ready for entertaining. I was just taking out the trash in the bathroom hen I could have sworn I head my mothers voice. My heart picked up it’s pace, and I hustled to inform the other 2 that she was here. We rushed outside to get a glimpse of the driveway. She wasn’t there, false alarm. But now I could see that the tension wasn’t just with me, my sister was tense; my Partner was even tenser. So, of course, to relieve that tension, we all grabbed a beer. The three of us were just lounging around, sipping beer, cracking jokes the few relatives that were coming began to arrive….my mother among them. My sister, as the host, got up to greet her guests, brought them in and through the house to the backyard. My aunt came up to my Partner and I and gave us a big hug, lots of I Miss Yous and How Are Yous. My mom didn’t move to huge me nor my Partner a hug, nor did she even speak to say hello. Already I could tell this would be an excruciating party. I just hoped it wouldn’t be that bad, for my sisters sake. We all went in and sat in the living room, my Partner and I got up and got the cake and candles prepared.... lights off, sing Happy Birthday, lights on, cut cake. Ok, half way through now…so close… I can hear my mother in the other room talking, and just her voice is bothering me. My Partner and I decide it’s time for a smoke break (or just need to step away, however you want to put it). Don’t cha know it, my mother follows us outside. Oh boy…my Partner makes an excuse that she and my sister need to take a ride to ‘go get something from the store’. And off they go, leaving me with just my mother and myself. She tries to start talking about our ‘issues’; I tell her it isn’t the time or the place for this conversation. She continues, I say a few things that were a bit harsh, that she certainly didn’t want to hear (remember, I HAVE had a few beers…and maybe a shot..) At this point my aunt pops her head out to announce she is leaving. At which point my mom decides that it may not be the time or the place for this. She goes inside. I have to just hang back a bit, gather myself a little, force the tears to the back because although it is a party, it’s not mine, and I can’t cry if I want to. So after a moment, I also go back inside. I come in the living room in time to see everyone with their jacket on, aunts give me hugs goodbye, my mom gives me a hug goodbye and off they all go.

Then I realize, they all just left…and the Birthday Girl is now coming back to an empty house! Don’t ya know, not 3 minutes later, my Partner and my sister return…and my sister is a little upset that all her guests have left and not one thought to wait and say goodbye, after all, she just went to the store real quick. Of course they want to know what happened, what did she say, what did I say, then what did she say, etc. I give them the recap, my sister says she told my mom not to do that, not at her birthday party, but I guess mom had different ideas. Who knows. All I know for sure now is that whatever she was trying to accomplish by acting like that, she didn’t accomplish. I am even more done (if that’s possible) with this situation than ever before. I am so sick and tired of people telling me that I need to call her and I need to talk to her. I guess nobody really gets that she is one of those types of people who, until they are really ready to listen…there is no point in trying to talk. Like getting an addict into recovery if they don’t want to recover. Needless to say, there will be no throwing myself, or my Partner, into shark-infested waters any more. No more ambush parties. No more idle, stupid, boring, meaningless conversation. No more stupid text messages and voicemails placing blame. I am over it.

So.

Completely.

Over.

It.

Solicitors that I really like coming to my door Human Rights Campaign, HRC

2010-09-24T12:51:00.002-04:00

Two days ago, my partner and I were sitting on our front porch and we watched as a man was going door to door selling something. I laughed and said to my partner "What Ever he is selling, we are not buying". About 20 minutes later there was a loud knock on the door. I simply can't just leave someone knocking on my door, so I answered with every intention of letting him give me a short speal, and then saying "No, Thank You"

Bu tthe moment he opened his mouth I could tell he was gay "or very effeminate, so I was going to give him a little more of a chance than I would if he wasn't (I know that is bad, but it is how I role)

He started by saying "I am here with HRC, the leading gay and lesbian activist group" You know that scene in Jerry McGuire where she says "You had me from hello" well that was certainly the case with this fellow. We signed up for a monthly donation. They are currently trying to overturn the Don't Ask Don't Tell, mandate in the US military. Although I think it is important for us to be treated equal in the military, I really am indifferent about it. (For many reasons I might even say I am apposed to it, don't really want to see our sisters and brothers fighting for rights which we don't currently hold, it is similar to having African Americans who were slaves fighting for the Southern front back in the Civil War)

If you have the money to give to them I strongly suggest you do, they are one of the only well organized organizations who are pounding the pavements for our rights. And although I am unable to do the same in their behalf, I am able to fund their goals, our goals.

Visit HRC Website, and donate

If you search the web, you are going to see a lot of folks who say that HRC isnt doing enough, or they are doing the wrong things. But as with just about anything in this world you are going to always find folks who are going to appose decisions that others have made, and the fact of the matter is that they are out their doing work on our behalf. This can not be disputed and if I was rich I would donate to every well organized organization, that fought for our rights. But alas I am not, so HRC will get my money for now, unless I am otherwise convinced their is something better.

Sisterspace 2010 Lesbian Camping Weekend, Music Fun and so MUCH MORE

2010-09-24T00:12:00.005-04:00

It’s been 2 weeks since SisterSpace 2010. I can hardly believe that it is already over. Seems like just yesterday (how cliché) I was counting down the days…and now it’s gone. I don’t have many vacations or things I look forward to during the year. SisterSpace is one of those things. The Weekend itself is only from Friday to Sunday. Unless, of course, your a volunteer. Then your 3-day Weekend now becomes a 5-day, 4-night stay. I happen to be a volunteer, as is my partner. We proably have the best job of all the jobs during the weekend. Camp Cleanup. I know, you’re thinking taking trash out is not fun at all. But that’s where you would be wrong. Think about it, no vehicles are allowed ‘On Land’, and yet the trash truck is. Who takes your nasty garbage out, we do…. so who is the most loved crew of the Weekend….US! The kitchen makes sure we are well fed, we get to go around and talk to everyone. We get to ride around in the bed of the truck (can’t do THAT in Philly!). It’s just a sweet job. The only one that could be better is Transportation, who gets to drive golf carts all over all weekend. THAT would be cool.

A little bit about ‘SisterSpace of the Delaware Valley’. SisterSpace is a once a year, camping/cabining weekend for women only. There are about 300ish women, some are volunteers, some are campers. The volunteers have a wide variety of jobs from Kitchen Duty, to Stage Crew, to Maintenance…and everything in between. The Weekend itself is non-profit, so it survives on women coming back and volunteering and of course, word of mouth. I have been to a few festivals (not Michigan yet) and this one is my favorite. It isn’t huge, but it isn’t teeny either. They feed you 3 squares a day, you set up your tent or you can stay in a cabin. You can pretty much drink the entire time (except for when you’re on duty). There are workshops to attend,vendors to buy stuff from. You can even get your haircut if you want. There are performers to watch, trails to hike, a pool. I mean it is just a GREAT time. And the best part about it, its ALL WOMEN! When was the last time you were surrounded by nothing but women, women of all ages and races? By Friday night, you forget what the rest of the world is like. You are sheltered in this Woman Bubble and everything else fades away. Your work fades, your troubles fade, it is just tenting and having a good time. Listening to women talk about their experiences, attending discussions, knitting, learning how to correctly use a strap on…I mean the list just goes on and on. There is football, yoga, even AA and NA meetings for those who need them. There is a whole vegan menu as well as a carnivorous menu. I don’t think I eat that good at any other point in the year. I can’t remember EVERY being hungry at SisterSpace. They have a full lunchroom that you can stop by at 3am and get a coffee if you wanted.

Have I mentioned yet how awesome this Weekend is?? There is just something about being out in the open, camping, that sets me at ease. It is strange to me, because in my average day/week/month I don’t like bugs too much. I take regular showers, I don’t like to get dirty, I don’t drink very much. But when I am at SisterSpace…all that is out the window. I drink like a fish, I think I shower once the whole weekend, I get dirty and I don’t care, and the bugs just don’t bother me at all. This year it was there were an EXTRA amount of spiders. BIG ones too, like big as my thumbnail. And they were EVERYWHERE! But, even that didn’t bother me too much. On a norm, my partner is the one who fixes stuff and builds stuff. When we are at SisterSpace, we sorta of switch roles. I become this tent setter-upper and taker downer/folder/packer person. They call me the ‘Tent Whisperer”, LOL. I think that’s hilarious. Needless to say, I am already so excited about next year. I have ideas for the trash truck, ideas for the different ‘villages’ and ‘cities’ of volunteer tenters. If you are interested about attending the Weekend next year, visit the website (my partner made it, it's HOT!)

http://www.sisterspace.org/

The Weekend is usually the second weekend of September at Ramblewood Campgrounds in Darlington, MD. Check it out, I think once you go one time, you’ll be just as hooked as we are :-)

See you next year!! (I’ll be one of the women in the truck) :-)

It's Me or the Dog Episode: Fiesty Females How Adorable are these two.

2010-09-17T11:09:00.000-04:00

Canine expert Victoria Stilwell encounters a couple whose pets cant share the same space due to the animals' incessant aggression towards one another, fueled by one owner's insistence on spoiling her puppy rotten with lavish gifts and treats

Sheena Best and her partner Tiffaney Thompson are having issue with their little doggies, imagine my surprise when I am watching Animal Planet and these two cuter than cute lesbians, pop onto my screen.

They are absolutly adorable. You can watch the preview at amazon as well :)

Watch Full Episode online with Amazon Feisty Females

Lesbian Oriented Computer Games, Love Ahoy lets us get Married

2010-09-14T19:55:00.006-04:00

I am a huge fan on computer games. I am a WIZ at the 'Time Management' type...been playing them for years. Through my many years of game playing, I have gotten used to matching this couple for points, perfect couple matches for bonus points, EXTRA bonus points for preforming the same action in a sequence....you all know what I mean. So needless to say, I've never really paid much attention to the characters in these games....just the colors. Red sits on the red seats, blue dances with blue characters, etc. Now that I have set the stage for my story....I can begin to tell you about the game I played today, called "Love Ahoy" :-)

So, the game starts, and I am a host on the cruise ship. You begin by matching different characters based upon their likes, after about 3 rounds of matching, if they are perfectly matched they get married and you get an invite to the wedding. I am doing real good, about at level 6 or so...and something changes. I am all confused....WTF?! I realize the characters are all women! Ok so now I am kind of excited, I am thinking to myself 'I wonder if the game will play the same way as when you are matching males and females...' So I match them, move onto the next level, match them again, final level...the level of marriage. So I am matching my ladies, and BAM...WEDDING BELLS!!!! I am SO FREAKING excited!!! I have never played a game where the characters were lesbians. Totally hit me out of left field. There I am playing away, big smile of my face, which is when of course my free 1 hour trial runs out. But dang, imagine my surprise when my silly time management game had lesbian characters. The only way it could have been cooler is if the lesbian characters came a little before the 6th level, but hey...I was proud they were in there at all.

Go BigFishGames.com for the game, thanks creators of Love Ahoy for thinking of us lesbians, and that we too like some time management games :-)

Until the next blog.....CHEERS!!!!

Fag Bug, this is a really cool story, and she travels the country, spreading the word.

2010-09-14T16:25:00.003-04:00

This weekend we were at A lesbian music festival SisterSpace 2010 (PS AWESOME WEEKEND Check them out and go next year you will not regret it) and by the pool, we saw a familiar car with a different paint job.

THE FAG BUG - we saw her about 2 years ago in Philadelphia, her car looked like this back then, back then I thought what a awesome way to turn a negative experience into a positive one. (below is what it looked like when we first saw the fag bug)

SisterSpace.org weekend 2010 the fag bug had undergone a face-lift. I dig the new look, but I will tell you, when I saw it two years ago it took my breath away, now it looks cute, but not the same effect on me at least. (below is what it looks like now, ps we took the picture ourselves at SisterSpace2010)

None the less we LOVE what you are doing Erin. Keep up the good work, every time we come across you in our journeys we are going to blog about it, and take a pictures. Visit the Fag Bug Website here at FagBug.com Show them lots of love by buying their DVD (ps we will have a blog review on this in the weeks to come), stickers and such.

SisterSpace 2010 Join us for an Amazing Lesbian weekend Performers Bitch, Coco Mama 4, Marga Gomez, KJ Denhert, Virago, Arlene McCann

2010-09-10T13:10:00.000-04:00

Hanging At SisterSpace 2010. If you are a lesbian and you are within 2 hours of Darlington, Maryland, you better get your butts down here and have yourself an awesome weekend. Gate Registration is available. Get directions at their website http://www.sisterspace.org/.

Virago starts tongiht at 730 they will be leading us in a parade of celebrating SisterSpace2010, then Marga Gomez, and BITCH!

Be HERE or Be SQUARE

PERFORMERS: Bitch, Coco Mama 4, Marga Gomez, KJ Denhert, Virago, Arlene McCann

Don't scream too LOUD someone may not like you..... tee heee....... WHO CARES

2010-09-08T15:34:00.001-04:00

Don't talk out of turn, don't say something to make someone uncomfortable and for gosh sake don't overstate your point otherwise.... they wont like you. All of us know what we are talking about, and quite frankly I think it is silly. I wonder if we even care if they like us at all. BOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

You should say what you want, you should talk about what you feel. Without fear of being told or treated like it wasn't OK to say what you did. As long as you say it with a intelligent focus on what you are discussing.

I will tell you I have conversated in several different ways and with a montage of people, and one thing I have learned is that people who judge you for what you talk about, are usually very INSECURE themselves. I'm just saying.

Celebrate Love, Celebrate it with all your heart. ALL LOVE

2010-09-08T10:20:00.001-04:00

I am not sure if it is my own insecurities or if it is a reality (probably a reality as I tend to blame things on myself that I shouldn't) that most uninformed straight/ homophobes think that being a lesbian or a gay male (ps for the rest of this post we will simply call ALL of us The Gays, because I am taking ownership of that phrase back). is all about being who you are having sex with, and the act of that sex, and further more if you talk too much about gay activism that it is about the sex or the act of your homosexuality.

Bare with me my sisters and brothers, cause I know that it is a load of dookie to think that it is about the sex.

But within myself I feel this need to pull back from my activism/ speaking out about the gay rights, because I think my life is not all about being the gay. Just as any other persons life is not all about who they fuck.

Of course it isnt, but....... IS IT. Really, is it.... take a moment and think about your friends/ family/ people of your community

What is most important to them, what is their lives based upon, what is any human life based upon could it be who you love, who you build your life with. No one is going to say, "I base my life on who I fuck". Life isn't about fucking (although it is fun) it is about who you love. But subsequently who you spend your life with is who you have sex with (if your lucky). So just as my parents relationship is about love, so is mine.

The Gays = LOVE

The Fact of the matter is that it is about love, who you love is always ok. As long as you are not hurting someone else, it is no one elses business, and even more, it should be celebrated. Everyone's love should be celebrated. So lets do that for just a moments.

Run, Walk, Ride, Skip, Jump, or Bounce for equality Love the Concept why isnt there MORE

2010-09-03T17:22:00.002-04:00

We have a friend on facebook who instant messaged us making us aware of her plight to fight equality.

Ride The Arc: Their mission: Ride the Arc will publicize the need for equal rights for gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender (GLBT) people; raise awareness about the high GLBT suicide rate; address faith-based barriers to full civil rights; and promote affirming places of refuge. Every mile of the ride will carry messages of hope, love, and inclusion that will save lives and move people closer to justice.(Click on any images to visit their websites)

That got me to thinking, "are there other run, walk, ride, skip, jump or Bounce for equality events out there". I have participated in Run for leukemia, and many other run, walk, ride, skip, jump or bounce for's. But never one for gay rights.

So as We often do, I searched to see if there were others:

Here is what we found

Equality Ride: The 2010 Equality Ride was a success! The fourth Ride visited 15 campuses with polices that are discriminatory to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer students, and brought a message of justice and inclusion to communities across the US.

There are a couple of mentions that we should make locally they do runs, walk, ride, skip, jump and/or Bounces in a local area.

The 2010 edition of the Run for Equality in Minneapolis-St. Paul

Honestly when searching for such a thing, there is no other.......... NONE (if you know of another please comment with a link so it can be included)

I would like to ask why we don't have a National event. I am more than sure that we have enough gay and lesbian runner, walkers, riders, skippers, jumpers and or bouncers out there that would be willing to participate in such an event on a national level. I WOULD, at the very least I would sponsor one or several people in such an event.

More over, We would be willing to offer/ donate Graphic Design and WebDesign support to such an organization that would like to start waving your GAY flag. HERE IS YOUR NEW LOGO we designed it just for you!!!!!

You Ask They Tell: Ragan, Our Brother in Big Brother, Has a chance to win.

2010-09-03T15:28:00.001-04:00

If you don't watch Big Brother already DO NOT START, I warn you DON'T DO IT, because you will get addicted. My partner loves this show, so much that I bought her the 24 hour feed for her birthday. I was a skeptic to begin with, and now I am hooked.

I wont even begin to get into the drama that has already happened but in the last episode our Brother Ragan actually has a chance to get to the final four. At the beginning of the week they did a cute little piece where he was crying himself to sleep with his sock puppet (it was cute, and SO hilarious), because his odds were slim to none that he would stay in the house. Then he lost the POV, which almost secured his eviction from the house. Then comes the saving grace. There is a chance that Brittney and Lane is going to back door the brigade and take down the other two brigade members, and make them cry like bitches. In which case Ragan will be in the final three. My understanding is if he wins HOH or POV he will be in the final 2......

GO RAGAN, Randi and I are rooting for you!

8: The Mormon Proposition Movie, this is one you will cry with every emotion all the way 4.5 Stars

2010-09-02T13:02:00.001-04:00

My Partner and I rented this movie from netflix about 3 weeks ago, and it is one of those movies that you keep putting off watching cause you know it is going to upset you. So about a week ago (If you knew our netflix habits that is a long time to hold onto one title) we watch the movie.

Literally tears from the beginning to the end. There are moments of joyful cries for the happiness. And then it turns to tears of sadness for the crap that our sisters and brothers are going threw in California. Now this documentary doesn't take into effect the recent overturning/ ruled unconstitutional that has happened in the last month or so. As painful as it may be to watch some of these documentaries, I think it is crucial to stay informed, and to support the film makers who put their blood sweet and tears into this film.

I GIVE IT A 4.5 Stars THANK YOU WOLFE VIDEO for releasing this.

Lesbian Legal Law and Documents that we found, and what my partner and I did to protect ourselves

2010-09-02T08:38:00.000-04:00

Big Disclaimer I am not a lawyer and do not claim to have gainful knowledge, the below is simply my experience and what my partner and I did to protect ourselves.

This is something I have thought about for most of my life (not like every waking moment) but often enough that now that my partner and I are in a committed relationship we have decided that it is something we need to absolutely do.

Even if our families could be trusted it is just a good idea to cover our butts, because I nor she want to ever walk into the hospital and have our partner have to go threw an even more agonizing situation than she is already in.

So the first thing we thought of was carrying around a fob (data Device) on our key chains and put I.C.E. on it (In Case Of Emergency) so with that said, we now need to get the documentation together and place digital copies on these fobs.

The three things that I found needs to be done, is a Power of Attorney (medical), Power of Attorney (general), Last Will and Testament, Hospital Visitation Authorization, and Living Will (also known as an Advance Healthcare Directive). In our state there is one document that covers three of these, if worded correctly it covers Power Of Attorney (Medical), Living Will and Hospital Visitation Authorization. (OUR STATE IS PA)

Power of Attorney (medical) - will cover our butts if she or I are in the hospital, the form that we used allows either of us to have complete access as well as decisions in the event that the other is incapacitated. (Pa all in one document)

Power of Attorney (general) - Covers all of the financial behavior that needs to be taken care if in the event that one of us is incapacitated. Bills, Bank Accounts, Asset Management.

Hospital Visitation Authorization - We chose to do this one as well as the document that covers all in our state, and our state does not require that we get the document notarized but and this is a big BUT because we travel a bit, other states may require that the document be notarized, so we are notarizing ALL of our documents. (in PA covered with one document but we are going to do a separate one just in case)

Will - is in the event of our death (goddess forbid) the other will be left in the will, generally this isn't any different than a regular will, and you leave all your money to your neighbor, the surviving partner will be taxed just the same (which I might add is BULLSHIT) cause if we were married, this would not be the case.

Living Will - This document will tell folks (medical folks) what you want to have done to you in the event you can not tell them what you want done. It goes further in our state to also include who can make decisions on the fly for you (Power of Attorney Medical). Things such as, do I want to tube feeding to be given or not given. (Pa all in one document)

I know a very morbid post, but honestly I have heard to many stories where gay and lesbian couples have had such horrible situations, and everyone of them say the same thing, "We should have covered our butts". I dont want to have to say that.

On a happy note there is help out there for us, we have several legal advocates on our side willing to help. Some are completely free, others are a very reasonable prices. Here are a few of them that I have found.

Katy Perry - Ur So Gay, What is she thinking, here is what I think

2010-09-01T17:11:00.001-04:00

PS they disabled our play on site function so..... you cant play it on here. But good news if you follow it, it will play on yourtube in another window, so you can continue reading PLEASE.

I am all about folks saying what they feel and singing, what they want, but I also have a right to get a little annoyed with their choice of lyrics.

I really like Katy Perry, I like the way she sings, and often times I will hear one of her songs playing in the background of my life and I will stop and say "Oh, who is that, I like it"

But the word ussage "Your so Gay", has been used as a put down for so long, and I hear it more often than I would like too. And when I hear it, I often stand up and say "what did you mean by saying Your So Gay'. And more often than not 98% of the time it is used to say someone is stupid, asshole and a all around put down to the person the statement is directed at.

I say to Katy Perry as I say to all the people I hear say "Your So Gay" What did you really mean to say. I would think she meant to say that this person is so Narcissistic, but then if that is what she meant to say, then why not do like Carly Simon did and simply say "Your So Vein" Or "Your So Narcissistic."

I think in the future when I hear someone say that, then I am going to say in future conversations with them "Your So Straight". Not just once, I am going to do it at nausium like is often done with "Your so Gay". 1 time probably wont irritate anyone, but when I start doing it when ever I mean to say your an asshole, or your so stupid, I think they may eventually get the point and at the very least curve their wordage around "The Gays"

I have read that Katy Perry has a gay best friend and loves "The Gays". But I am the type that really doesn't care what you say you are, I need to be shown, and as far as I am concerned I don't know her, and from what I have seen, she is at the very least not sympathetic to our cause.

Curve Magazine 150 Most Desireable Queer Women (according to you/ us)

2010-08-31T18:46:00.000-04:00

:Love this Magazine, This month they introduced the curve 150 most desirable queer women, and I didnt even know that some of these lades were gay.... Lord knows we sure dont mind if they are. But I am not so sure, I will give you the top 10 and make some honerable mentions.

1.0 Kate Moening - YIPPPPPY I conquer

2.0 JillianMichaels - is she gay?

3.0 Portia De Rossi - I agree

4.0 Megan Fox - Dont even know her, but maybe I should since she made it to the top 10

5.0 Angelina Jolie - HOOOOOOOOOOOT should be number 1

6.0 Kim Stolz - Agreed

7.0 Leisha Hailey - Yes, Yes and Most Certainly Yes

8.0 Rachel Maddow - Should be # 1 cause she has some serious brains to go with her hottness

9.0 Michelle Bonilla - Sure

10.0 Ellen Defeneres - Should be higher, maybe right behind her beautiful wife :)

Some other honerable mentions that I totally love, Daniela Sea, Laurel Holloman, Tegan and Sara, Sarah WatersDani Campbell. Jackie Warner.

There are some great names in this list, but I I question Some queerness of some of these ladies, if you are willing to sleep with women, or have slept with them in the past, does that mean you should be included on this list. I guess this is why they called it queer women, and not top 150 Lesbian women. Queer is such a wide blanket to lay over our top 150 hotness list. Even Madonna was included on this list.

If you have the moneies to get this magazine you should, my partner and I subscribe to it and love it. It comes in a black envelope so you get the Mag Descritly. Not that we really care, but I know some ladies do care who knows they are gay.

Check it out on Amazon here Curve Magazine Subscription

Cheers......

Bloggers need to pay your taxes in Philadelphia........

2010-08-30T03:06:00.000-04:00

Let me clear my throat..... you heard it right bloggers, Philadelphia (a city I love) is trying to pass a manditory blogger tax of don't quote me on this because blogs are not fact...... 300$ a year...... Funny, I wish we made 300$ a year on any blog we did. Maybe we are doing something wrong but 300$ a year would come out of our ass just like these words often do :)

Give me a break, no really GIVE ME A BREAK, because if this passes I will not only have to pay Philadelphia but I will have to pay for my domain, WHAT, just to speak my mind....... BOOOOOOOO BOOOOOOOOOO BO on you Philadelphia for being so damn hard up that you are going to tax my already broke ass...... BOOOOOOO

What comes next, are you going to tax the kid that mows my lawn, oh wait, you already do when he doesn't do it quick enough to make sure that it isn't above 10". I get a fine so that you can..... WHAT

When is it going to end...... tax me for this, you tax me for that.... I happen to remember this amazing little thing called the BOSTON TEA PARTY, and a little thing where folks did not like being taxed until their bank was broke....... OUR BANK is broke too Philadelphia, stop trying to dip into pockets that have already been bled dry......

BOOOOOOOOOOO Philadelphia BLOGGERS TAX (PS this is going to put a big stamp on our back, so feel free to send us money, so we can pay our FUCKING tax)

Fondue is Fun, Fun, Fun.... And you can do it at home :)

2010-08-13T11:25:00.000-04:00

So the other night our new roommate introduced us to fondue at home, and I must say it was delicious. It was a Montery Jack, Sharp Cheddar and a Lager Mix..... and damn it was good.

The kind of fondue aparatice we used was one that takes those Sterno things for heat. Once we figured all that out we were golden. We dipped Bread and Green apples.... Absolutly nothing wrong with it at all.

Here are some similar Fondues you can buy from amazon, they also have ones that are electric.Fondue Sets At Amazon

Hello...

2010-08-11T17:41:00.001-04:00

I just wanted to pop in quick and shoot you guys an update. I know I haven't posted in awhile, and I've been working on a wedding (straight wedding) post, which should be up soon.

Right now though, I could use a little love from my gay family. Last December I moved into an apartment with my now fiancee, and a really close friend. She warned me that all of her roommates ended up hating her, and though I didn't believe it at the time, she was telling the truth. Throughout the time I lived with this girl, she was lazy. She never cleaned up after herself, never helped with the chores, and never quite seem to get the hint that all of the dirty dishes in the sink were HERS.

She started talking about moving out a couple of months ago, and my partner and I were worried. The time she was planning on moving out is when our finances would start getting a little tight. She assured us that she could pay through September and that she wouldn't fuck us over (even though she moved out of her last place early and left her old roommate hanging). I, being the trusting idiot that I am, thought she would never do that to me. HA HA! I'm such a sucker.

Regardless of how shitty of a friend she was, I wanted to keep her a part of my life, even after she broke down our door and refused to tell the landlord about it, lost our cat in the apartment building and LIED to me about it, and didn't seem to comprehend the fact that she was fucking us over with rent.

I mean, she would have a different boy over every week, and between them pissing on the toilet and her cat tracking litter over the house, she NEVER cleaned. (Nor did she clean her room when she moved out. Hello nasty old cat hairballs and duct tape residue on the walls) Why do I always get the winner roommates? Why, when people live with me, do they turn into lazy, asshole douchebags?!

Well she did. Yesterday, she came and said that she was not paying rent in September, assuring me that we had discussed this. We had. If should couldn't afford it, then she could pay throughout the month. Apparently she thought this meant she didn't have to pay at all. She then proceeded to tell me, that she talked to the landlord and we all needed to sign an agreement saying she could be off of the lease.

How stupid is this girl? You tell me that you, my friend, are not paying rent (even though she just made a 12 hour car trip and was planning on making it again later this week, bought a couch, and went on a shopping spree and "spent soooooo much money") because you can't afford it. I brought up to her that she has/had the money, but didn't spend it wisely. She then insulted me and my partner because we have been furnishing our house. Excuse me, bitch. We can afford it. You moved out. This is your problem. And then you say that we are meeting on Saturday to get your name off of the lease.

No. You know, if you had been a little bit smarter about this issue, or if you had lied to me a little longer, you would have gotten away with it. Now, you're stuck paying until the end of the lease. I'm not signing anything. Obviously this friendship is over to you, so I'm no longer going to treat you like a friend. I'm going to treat you like an irresponsible drunken idiot who kicks down people's doors and won't grow up.

My partner is trying to convince me to just sign the agreement, get her out of our lives, be done with it. We can afford it, we really can, but after all the stress and bullshit she put me through, I'm not dealing any more. My partner and I are talking about it tonight, and then getting an unbiased opinion from a friend who isn't involved in the situation. I've already called the landlord and told her that [shitty roommate] told us yesterday about setting up an appointment for getting her off the lease, and that I would like to sit down with the landlord before this happens and talk about it. Heavily hinting on the fact that I was not aware of this decision (true) and that I am not okay with it.

I'm going to make sure that my partner and I won't be burned if she refuses to pay the rent. My landlord will more than likely take her to court (woo!) but I want to make sure that she won't take my partner and I as well. If my ass won't be covered, then I'll sign this bitch out of my life, if my ass is covered, then suck it. You burned the bridge on the wrong person, and you lit yourself on fire when you did it.

If I took an honest look at myself, I know that I'm really upset that this has happened. I put a lot of time, effort, sacrifice, and forgiveness into this friendship to make it work. I trusted this girl with a lot of my feelings, a lot of my thoughts, and considered her part of my family, where my biological family has failed. Right now I'm too angry to deal with that, and knowing me, I'll ride the vengeance wave and act like I don't give a damn. Still, that bitch broke my heart, in a I-trusted-you-as-a-close-friend way.

Is Facebook our friend.... I like it, but it really irritates me

2010-07-24T16:10:00.000-04:00

Don't get me wrong I love facebook, I think it is an amazing tool to be able to chit chat with people and get the word out about cool stuff that you may not otherwise know about. But I find myself using it as my mode of communication with people, for weeks on end.

I have one friend who refuses to use facebook, all of her pals are on there, but she refuses. She said and this is a direct quote "you can call me if you need to know what I am up too". I totally agree. Sometimes I feel like it has replaced calling somone or even hanging out with someone.

And furthermore I find myself moderatly obbsessed with checking on a daily basis. I go on there atleast 4 times a day, now some of that is to keep up with the website profile, but I must admit that more than half of it is a morbid obsession to know what people are up too.

Facebook could become the new crack. I am just saying some people cant go without their facebook fix. They need to have the ap on their mobile phone, they need to check it all the time, and simply cannot function without it.

I propose that facebook creates a detox center, and call it FBA, FaceBook Anonomous. Where their is no internet access in the center, and that you have to call people to find out what people are doing, and your friends can come and visit you and have cookouts.

I am just saying......

TO MY FAMILY

2010-07-20T15:48:00.000-04:00

I am so sorry I could't be what you wanted me to be...... I am so sorry I couldnt just marry a man...... I am so sorry I couldnt follow what it is that you think is appropriate for your way of thinking, of your book of thinking.....

BUT I AM HAPPY, with the exception of you, I am happy

Coming Out Twice: Part Two

2010-07-18T17:09:00.000-04:00

Let me just preface this by saying this is one of the harder things I have ever written. Throughout the family reunion, I was writing it in my head. Once I got to my computer, though, all motivation was gone. The day in itself sucked, and I didn't want to have to rehash it on paper. When I finally worked up the motivation to write it, I hated every word that came out. After a couple of drafts, I put it away for another week and didn't think about it.

So I apologize for the excessive amount of time it has taken me to get this online. Finally, the follow-up for the Family Reunion. (See this post for part one)

Friday 4:00 p.m.: For once, my workday went ungodly fast. The plan was to come home, pack my bags (which I had procrastinated on doing for the past couple of days...) grab a quick bite to eat and start out on my two hour drive to hell. It had been raining off and on since Wednesday, and I figured the best plan of action would be to call dad and see how the roads were.

The call was short, as usual. Dad and I don't really get into gossip and daily lives, but rather we like to get straight down to business. Especially since I came out a year and a half ago. Verdict: it had rained so much at my parents' that some roads were flooded. I felt a sense of relief mixed in with fear. Yay! The farm has been turned into an island! There's no way I can make it home! and Dammit! I'm going to miss my cousins, and my sister, and the scant few other people I actually want to see. Dad warned me that if I timed it right, I could probably make it there safely. A whole new slew of thoughts consumed me. Leaning more towards Damn. There's still a chance I could make it.

My partner and I looked up weather, mapped out and made guesses of when I could make my trip and miss all of the storms. We determined two windows. Tonight before dark, which was around 9:30–10:00 and tomorrow morning between 6:00 and 8:00. I relayed the information to my family, in case they would worry if I were out on the road in a storm (unlikely, the worrying part, not getting caught in a storm part). And since it was only 4:30 and the absolute latest I could leave was at 10:00, my partner and I relaxed. I pushed the thought of this weekend out of my head and enjoyed playing with our dog and cat and watching TV with her.

A couple of times throughout the evening she made hints as to I should probably get going. Once, I packed my bag. The others, I made some agreeing statement and continued to watch TV. Around 8:00 though, I got very anxious. "Should I go? Or would it be better to wait until morning?" I asked my partner, repeatedly. Always getting the same answer: "It will be hard not being with you tonight, knowing you're probably going to be unhappy at home and I can't comfort you, but it's supposed to rain all day tomorrow. It would be better if you left. It's up to you."

At 9:00 I finally scraped up the courage to finish packing, grab what little things I had forgotten and load the car. I still had a half hour before I really SHOULD leave, so I cuddled with my partner, trying to muster up the courage to go.

Friday, 9:20 p.m.: The storm hits early. We are in a severe thunderstorm warning producing hail and damaging winds, etc, etc, etc. I feel amazing. I've missed my chance! No way I was driving in that! Rivers were already at their banks and flooded over, with this extra bit of rain I wasn't even going to chance it!

We spent the evening together, both dreading the morning, but refusing to talk about it. I still held on the to hope that I wouldn't be able to go at all, and angry at myself for thinking that way. There were family members that I didn't get to see for years at a time. Family members that I wanted to spend time with this weekend.

My mother, father, and sister were none of those family members. And a big enough of a discomfort at being around them that I'd sacrificed one of my windows of opportunity to see the family I truly wanted to see.

Saturday, 6:00 a.m.: My partner is getting ready to go into work, and I am continuing to drag my ass. A quick check of the weather reveals that my parents' place is surrounded by a thunderstorm. More than likely the one that hit me last night. It was going to move out of the area after 8:00. Hopefully, by the time I'd gotten there, the roads would be somewhat cleared. My partner left, after a quick kiss and encouraging words. An assurance that she was proud of me for making this trip (somewhat belatedly, but nonetheless), and I was left home alone to wait until I could begin my trip.

Saturday, 8:00 a.m.: After some coffee, a shower, and a self-pep talk, I grabbed some breakfast and headed out of town. I wasn't more than ten minutes outside of town when I called my partner and asked her why the hell I was doing this. Already, the pep talk and self-reassurance had worn off. I was walking into hateful territory, unarmed and alone. I was on an agreement of silence that I would not come out, talk about gay people, gay things, gay legislature, anything slightly homo. Somehow this was filed under protection of my sister. It is a small town, so small that it didn't click (besides the large stack of evidence: I'd never dated, never been kissed, never held hands with any boy; I'd been pro-gay on a small scale, when people would talk about gay men and how that's unacceptable, but lesbians are hot, I would get very offended; and I was very comfortable talking about how sexy I thought celebrity women were) that I was a lesbian. It was so taboo, so unacceptable that it didn't make sense until I went away to college. I digress... Long story short, my sister is afraid of people finding out because they might discriminate against her. I'm not surprised. Even though I'm atheist, and have been out to my family in that aspect for 7 years, she continues to request me to take communion and "save face" in church. For some reason though, her homophobic-ness hurts more than her unwillingness to accept my lack of belief in any sort of religious god(s).

I didn't turn my car around, but I desperately wanted to. I knew this would end up like every single other visit I made to my parents' house. I would be angry, hurt, and ready to leave, regretting I'd even made the trip at all. All sorts of scenarios were playing out in my head. What if someone asked about my ring? What if someone asked why I'm still living in Nebraska and why I hadn't moved yet? (I've been expressing a desire to move out of state since high school). How will I tell them that I'm engaged... to a woman? And that I haven't moved because my partner is afraid to move from Small Town, Nebraska to Chicago, or Vermont, or any big city?

The car ride didn't get any better, and I did not once come across flooded roads.I pulled into the driveway at 10:00 a.m., no less anxious then I had been the entire ride.

Saturday, 10:00 a.m.: They weren't home. Mom, Dad, my sister... all gone. However, the cousins I'd wanted to see were there! My cousins (the good ones even!) were milling about the farm, playing outside in the backyard, inside on the Wii, begging me to go drive them around on the four-wheeler, and asking me about my life and how I'd been.

I did my best to weasel around the "gay issue." Not because of the agreement with my immediate family, but because of the fear of coming out. It has never gotten easier. Coming out to my friends was the easiest, if I lost any of them because I was gay, good riddance. They weren't a true friend in the first place. Coming out at work was terrifying. I could easily be fired if my boss was a homophobic nit. And she was! (I didn't get fired, because I didn't come out to her. She was demoted a few months before I came out. My new boss is very cool about me being a lesbian. He constantly asks me how my partner is, and even though he has a bad habit of saying "that's gay." He's curbed it, and no longer says it. But that story is best saved for another post) Coming out to my parents was harder. They were paying my college tuition at the time. Along with my phone bill, my health insurance, my car insurance, and my car was in their name. Easily, I could be left with nothing if they wanted to disown me. Coming out to the rest of my family... I wasn't so keen on. I have a vague idea of which family members would be okay with it, which family members have a pretty good idea that I'm gay already, and which family members I should NEVER tell. Regardless... it's still hard. Even for the family members that I think know, I don't KNOW if they know or not. I could be wrong, and it doesn't ever get any easier coming out.

So I skirted around the issue of mentioning my partner, my engagement, and any other details of my personal life. I'm still mad at myself for not getting up the courage to just do it but the opportunity is long gone, and not much I can do about it now.

After the tense conversation, my morning and afternoon went very good. After lunch, my cousins went into town to check up on the golf tournament, where the rest of my family members were, and I had an hour or so to myself. It was very nice. At one point my cousin had gone into "mom mode" and demanded that I go to the golf tournament with them. Conveniently I disappeared.

Saturday, 4:00 p.m.: After playing the wii, getting in a phone call to my partner, and pillaging the fridge, my relaxing afternoon was shattered by the arrival of my mother. We do not get along. If it weren't for my dad and sister, I wouldn't go back to the farm at all. My mother has disowned me and I've done the same. We do the bare minimum of civility towards each other. A tense hug and a few sentences exchanged and we went to the opposite ends of the house. When another one of my cousins came over, the tension was broken. My mother and I had a conversation with the cousin, but not with each other. At 5:00, we went in for the big family picnic/supper. The food was good, and I successfully avoided the family members I had no interest in seeing. I constantly dye my hair, and it throws all of them off. Not many people knew who I was.

Usually after supper, we take the family photos. First, each branch, and then the entire family. All 300 and some of us. I asked mom if they had already taken the pictures. She said, "Yes, you must have missed it."

She lied. She lied to get me out of the family photo. Perhaps she hoped that I would leave and not be included. A half hour later, the photo was taken. I didn't talk to my mother for the rest of time I was there. I didn't say goodbye, I didn't even see her. That made the rest of my evening somewhat bearable.

Saturday, 7:00 p.m.: By this time I was completely over the family reunion. I'd said hi to the people I'd wanted to, avoided the people I didn't want to talk to, and refrained from jumping up on a picnic table and screaming " I'M A DYKE! A LOVER OF WOMEN! AND I'M ENGAGED TO A BUTCH WOMAN AND WE HAVE LOTS OF CRAZY LESBIAN SEX." No! Of course I've never even entertained the idea of doing such things. I haven't prepared a speech for such an opportunity. Ha ha.

I had, however, been looking for every possible opportunity of getting my father away from the "festivities" and telling him I'm engaged. The time had arrived. He told me he was going into town, to Grandma's house, to take a nap. I volunteered to come with. It was a short drive in, 2 minutes tops, and I decided the best plan of action would be to sit him down at the table, and probably not tell him while the car is in drive.

As soon as we walked into the house, I told him I had something to tell him. Before he could ask what, or walk away, or ruin my chance, I said, "Dad, I'm engaged."

The first thing he said was "Oh, Sarah." And it wasn't the OMG! I'm so happy for you Sarah! My baby girl is gonna get married!. It was the Oh, Sarah, what have you done? The second thing out of his mouth: Don't tell your mother.

I assured him that I wasn't going to tell her. Ever. He told me that's good, because she won't come to the wedding. I said good. I don't want her there any way. I told him that I wanted was for him to be happy for me. And to maybe, possibly, be in the wedding and give me away.

He told me there was no way Mom would let him. The engagement is going to be long, at least a couple of years, because my partner and I don't want to live in a state where it isn't legal. He said he didn't know if he could be in the wedding. He wasn't sure if he believed gay marriage was right.

My father told me that he thought I had no right to be happy. No right to marry the person I love. Not in so many words of course, but it still stung.

I told him it was going to be a few years. He said maybe he would be okay with it by then. I told him my sister already knew, and I'd asked her to be in the wedding as well. I understand if they don't think they can, or if they don't believe it is okay. I told him I already had a backup person to walk me down the aisle and give me away. I'm not sure if that hurt him at all, but I know a little bit of me wishes it did. Not a lot, I very much want my father to give me away, but since he doesn't believe in gay marriage, I don't believe in him being a part of my wedding.

There. It's done. The tense stuff was over. He asked me how it would work. The whole getting married thing. I told him that's why I want to move to Iowa, seeing how it is legal there. He had no idea. I told him my partner didn't want to move far away from her family, and Iowa is a baby step to bigger better places.

He told me congratulations, said that I was an adult and I could make my own decisions, and as long as I was happy, he was happy for me. He expressed his concern in my partner being a recovering addict and alcoholic. He said, "I don't care if she's a woman or a man, either way I'm worried about what you're getting yourself into." That was comforting. He was being a father, even though my being a lesbian was hard for him. I explained to him about NA and AA a little, and told him some stories about close encounters with pot. I told him I knew what I was getting into, that relapse was always a possibility, and that I loved her and was willing to run that risk.

We cried. We hugged. And we never talked about it again. We didn't mention me being gay. We didn't mention me being engaged. We didn't mention my partner. In fact, after we made it out to the reunion again, we didn't say anything else to each other.

We went our separate ways, he went to nap, I went to my phone, crying to my partner and recounting the story for her. At the reunion, I found a ride out to my place, and didn't see my dad, sister or mom for the rest of the time I was there.

Sunday, 9:00 a.m.: After sleeping on an air mattress (one that my mother insisted she didn't have and I'd have to sleep on the floor), I woke up ready to leave. My mom, dad, and sister were at church. They didn't come back before I left, so I left without saying goodbye. Ten of my cousins were at my house, planning a way back to their homes. It was raining again, and some of the roads were flooded. A storm was hovering over my home, and I waited a half hour until it passed. Once the radar showed it was gone. I hugged my cousins, said goodbyes, packed my car and left. I was back home with my partner by noon. It was so very nice to be surrounded by people that I loved, and that those people loved me back.

Do straight people Feel so Cast out from their family...... Or is it just The Gays

2010-07-18T16:34:00.000-04:00

When I was younger I thought for sure not having the overbearing hand of my family was a good thing.... but as I get older..... It hurts so much more.

I may have known it would hurt this much, and so I busied myself with things that would take my mind off of the pain..... but as I get older I find it so hard to busy my mind......

I rememebr the things that made us a family and I long for those things.... And I also find myself so very ANGRY. I try not too, but I am..... And I find myself questioning what it is I miss, was it a mirage, did they every really love me at all....

I know what you are thinking.... how sad, how unbeleavable sad..... but when you are left with nothing, you are not left with nothing.... you are always left with a question LOL a million questions, a zillion questions.....

And I find myself trying to fill that void... that void.... that can never be filled..... it leaves me to think it is only about me being gay that I feel this way about my family.... but I then think.... Is it? Do other people (straight) feel this way about their family.... do they also get cast out for other reasons?

I am trying not to have a mentality of Family sucks, cause I know they dont all suck big red cherios LOL, but it is hard to disconnect from that feeling when that is all you know..... selfish, disconnected, running when it doesnt fit their mold kind of family..... OVER IT

Good news I think i might be finding me, without the pain..... I can see it..... where I dont make decisions when I ask myself "will they love me more if I do this"..... I am doing things for me... or even "will they hate this" I find myself sometimes doing stuff that would ultimatly PISS THEM OFF....

Moving is a pain.... in the bum bum

2010-07-14T18:17:00.000-04:00

My partner and I live in a spacious house 3 bedrooms, basement, attic..... backyard all the fixens.... but damn if it isnt expensive..... we considered having someone rent our extra rooms, but we had NO LUCK on craigslist. We had a ton of bites, a SHIT TON, but everyone who came to look at the place either had a sob story or we simply didn't feel comfortable, NO THANKYOU.......

We then decided that we would move, and our friend had a huge house with 3 rooms available. UM YEAH....... cause she has been our friend for about 2 years, and we have watched Aholes move in and out of her house...... and we know we aren't A holes, so WE ARE MOVING..... whop whop....

I am so excited cause I am going to have an office.... SO Lesbians4Lesbians.com will be in an actual office.....

But for now moving is a pain I just keep thinking it will be over soon........

Lesbian Action Films, Great Movies to watch Mainstream Films

2010-06-29T13:53:00.000-04:00

Lesbian Action Films, Great Movies to watch Mainstream Films

Using voice recognition for typing, I'm not typing im speaking to my computer right now!

2010-06-21T10:48:00.000-04:00

I was thinking to myself, how awesome would it be if my computer could just listen to my voice and type everything for me. So I looked online, and I found a bunch of web sites and programs that could do this for me. But the prices were a little too much for something I just wanted to try out. Then I came across one website that was talking about windows having a feature like this. So I went to the start in the search meaning, and searched speech recognition, and lo and behold there it was.

Now, I am speaking to my computer, and it is typing everything I say. My intentions for using such a program was to see if it would be faster than typing. Now I think to myself this has many applications. Think about the people who can't use their hands, and who in the past had to buy expensive equipment to be able to use their computer, now it seems it is standard.

I also feel a little like an executive of a major corporation (not that this is a good thing) but I remember watching movies where the big boss man would be dictating to his secretary and she would be dutifully typing or writing every word he said. So it feels similar to this, I'm going to see if I can use it and it starts getting better. The program says that the more you speak the more it will start recognizing your pronunciation, so we will see.

Cheers for now! It's been nice talking to you. LOL!!!

The Real L-Word Blog Season 1 Episode 1 "Power of Clam" Blog, Review

2010-06-20T23:40:00.000-04:00

The Short of it: (as seen on Showtime.com) Tracy spends the weekend at her girlfriend Stamie's house and strains to keep up with Stamie's three little ones. Is she ready for the responsibility of full-time parenting?

Mikey has charged herself with producing the best Fashion Weekend LA has ever seen. After finding the perfect location for her client, she races off to receive an award from the Chamber of Commerce. She can't wait to share her big night with Raquel, but she's nowhere to be found and devastating news about the venue further riles Mikey.
Whitney is overwhelmed, both with Tor moving in and her complicated feelings for Sara. At a bar, she again runs into recent hookup, Romi — and this time their exchange ends in a kiss! Will Whitney be able to juggle all of these relationships?
Nikki and Jill are hoping to turn a book about 'sexual fluidity' into a documentary, a topic close to Jill. It comes into greater focus when her best friend Derek pays a visit and it's revealed how close the two came to dating.
Rose and Natalie celebrate their seven-month anniversary with a romantic dinner followed by a steamy nightcap at home. Later, Rose's father encourages Rose to reconcile with her estranged mother — their feud is tearing the family apart. With pressure from Natalie and her family mounting, Rose cuts loose at a debaucherous game night with friends but it quickly turns into a major blowout.

What I thinks: The Girls

Mikey: Ok first, I was thinking I am not going to like this girl, she annoys the crap out of me with the whining with her GF and such, but then there was a moment when she was kicking the models out of her office and telling the modeling agency on the phone "to fuck off" and now I want her to be my besty, and hang out with her all the time. She is ovaries to the wall fun, love chicks that stand up and simply say "fuck off" when they need to.

Nikki and Jill: The positive, they are so unbelievable cute with one another and the fact that they met at camp years ago as kids is adorable. Love the fact that they are having a couple that is getting married on the show. The moderately irritating: I always am a little jealousy of gals that can spend money out the ass, and not even worry about it, so I was a little irritated/ jealous of that. Nikki is a little skinny, and by a little, I mean super skinny, we can only hope that is her metabolism and genes and that Jill doesn't need to be looking behind the toilet for bags of .... you know what..... But they are still adorable, really not enough to make me not like them.

Rose: Ok, maybe the only one I am not so sure I am liking after the first episode. But I will attempt to pull something positive from this messy messy gal. So lets look at the positive first, her family is freaking awesome. Her Grandmother was so obviously full of nothing but adoration with Rose. The not so good: Not to be superficial but she had huge bags under her eyes, she has never been faithful to a single GF, and she isn't certain she is going to be faithful to the new gal she is seeing, YUCKY

Tracy: There was never a moment when I didn't like her. She is a skater chick, and adorable. Her mother and her are coming to terms with her being gay, so I totally dig they are exploring that part of being a "gay". She is also in a relationship with a gal who is recently separated from her baby mama, so their is the lesbian mother aspect they are exploring with her. PS it was awesome to see a lesbian family even if it was a broken family (I hate that term but you get the idea)

Whitney: Love, Love, LOOOOOVEEEEE her. She is that evil horrible thing that you know you shouldn't adore, but then there she is. She is so mindless with her ability to break the hearts. The best moment in the first episode with Whitney was when she came out (kind of) and said "I am ok with lust, lust is fun, love is scary". Funny part is when they open the episode she is picking up friends from the airport and one of the gals she is picking up is a potential love interest. Later on in the episode she is smoothing over a uncomfortable moment at the bar when a gal she has been seeing enters the scene, and they have to talk it out. And at the very end of the episode she is dropping off the first girl at the airport and then picking up a new girl at a different gate. WHO DOES THAT, but very entertaining.

So the SHOW: I am digging it, so far but we are only one episode in so, the verdict is still out. But not to damn bad so far, and Showtime LOVE YOU they had a countdown at the bottom of the screen when the end of Tudors was rolling.

Till Next Week Cheers!!!!!!

I hurt so much......

2010-06-16T18:11:00.000-04:00

If i were to say the words to express my pain..... you may not understand me.... you could not understand me......

For the pain I feel is deep inside, well below, beyond, captured in a silence captured in a whisper, in a glance. Caputred in this circumstance.

Drinking To Find My Emotions......

2010-06-16T17:41:00.000-04:00

It really seems that if I don't drink at all I am swept into this mirage of none existance into this thing that is held up by illusions placed there by others. And only when I drink do I feel the need to unravel this illusion for what it simply is, a mirage. So does that make I am an alcoholic, or does that make everyone else magician unable to allow their mirage to be pummaled.

Coming Out Twice

2010-06-10T18:19:00.000-04:00

If this introductory post sounds a bit poor me, and boo-hooey I apologize. It is not intended that way. The subject of my blogs will be the difficulty of being gay in the Midwest (aka Nebraska, the Midwestest part of the Midwest). So let it begin...

This weekend I will be going to my parents' house in small-town (less than 2,000 population) Nebraska to celebrate my once-every-five-years family reunion. I am nervous for a variety of reasons. At the previous family reunion, I was still in high school, and I had little to no exposure to LGBT individuals, ideas, and the lifestyle. In fact, the extent of discussion about gays was overcompensating boys in gym class calling each other fags. Don't get me wrong, I'd heard of the "dreaded homosexual" before, but even though I'd never had a boyfriend, not really had any sort of sexual attraction to anyone in my school (though, I am related to the majority of them, so that probably had a heavy hand in my lack of dating life), I didn't realize that I was gay.

Long story short, no one, not even myself, knew I was gay at the last family reunion. Now, however, I've been happily out to my friends for 4 years, and not so happily out to my parents and sister for a year and a half. No one from back home, other than friends I kept in touch with when I moved to go to college knows that I'm gay.

When I came out to my parents, they were less than receptive. My dad wasn't happy about it, but realized that it is my life and I have every right to live it as I see fit. My sister was upset and we've grown apart. My mother is a whole other story. She has made it clear that I am to "leave that part of me" behind when I come back home, as if being a lesbian is a dirty pair of sneakers that I can take off and shove underneath my bed. She very much believes that being gay is a choice, and I have made that choice to cause her endless, horrible pain. (We've never really gotten along) She has put Rules in place for the rare occasion I come home. The Rules are as follows: there will be no discussion about gays, I will not have a political agenda in any way, I will not be coming out, no gay paraphernalia, no talking about partners (a mistake I made with my first girlfriend. I almost outed myself to my family before I was mentally prepared to deal with it), and, finally, I am to skirt the situation in all cases.

Dad has made a deal with me that I won't come out to the rest of my family (cousins, aunts and uncles, my grandmother) until my sister graduates high school, 3 years from now. I get it, it makes sense, high school children are cruel, and she's afraid of being judged for the person that I am. Hey, I went to school there too, I know how close-minded, vicious, and idiotic those brats can be. I don't quite understand why I can't come out to the rest of my family, or why I'm not allowed to bring home my partner for holidays and family events. But I take what I can get, and the deal stands.

This weekend will be filled with me fending off questions about my personal life from people I haven't seen in five years. Not only were the conversations of "So, how's the dating scene going?" awkward back then, it'll be even more awkward now. It doesn't sound that hard, but its surprising how often questions come up that I have to fib and act straight. It never fails, at least once, at every family function "So, will you be the next one to tie the knot" (weddings), "Do you have a boyfriend yet" (every visit home from college), and it kills me when someone asks where I got my beautiful necklace and I have to lie and say I bought it, or vaguely say it was a gift without spilling the beans about my partner.

However, this trip will be more difficult than most. Two months ago I proposed to my partner. We haven't set a date for the wedding yet, because she has a lot of debt left over from her drug using years (5 years sober this month!) and we both agree that we don't want to travel out of state to get married and come back to live in a state where it isn't legal. We do talk a lot about moving to Iowa, but we have a lot of work to do and a lot of money to save before we can start making plans. She called her parents right away, and while they don't support her, they still know. Her mother has started an anti-gay club in her hometown, constantly preaches to the both of us about how God hates gays, and up until I met Moe, was pressuring her to go to a gay-to-straight conversion camp. Let me state again, at least they know.

My sister knows, but only because I want someone in my family to know, and it took me a good two weeks to finally tell her. When I first asked Dad to meet Moe, back when we'd been dating for only a few months, he expressed how he doesn't understand why I'm gay, but he loves me and supports me. Oh, and he can't handle it if I were to get married. I'm hoping his stance on that has changed over the past year. I haven't told either one of my parents yet, and I'm not planning on taking off my engagement ring for the reunion. And, well, telling Mom I'm engaged would be a breach of The Rules.

In the short discussions I've had with my sister, I can tell she's somewhat happy for me, and she's not anti-gay. She just wants to protect her comfy little life in small town Nebraska. I asked her to be in the wedding party and I wasn't given a straight answer. I'm still holding out that the couple of years it will take Moe and I to get our stuff together and move out to a legal state, she'll be willing to be a part of my wedding.

I have no idea how Dad will take it. Mom might outright ask me to leave. And not come back. Ever. Which, honestly, wouldn't be that big of a deal. I mean, yes, it would suck, but I'm not nearly as financially dependent on them as I was a few short years ago. They were paying for my college tuition in full, I was on their health insurance, their phone plan, their car insurance, and my car still under their name. Now I'm almost home free from financial dependency. In a couple of months I'll have my car signed over in my name and I will be 100% adult. Emotionally, it will suck, but at least I have my ducks in a row if it happens.

I know Dad won't kick me out of the family. I'm fairly sure he knows that this little announcement will be coming sooner or later, so hopefully he's mentally prepared for it. That being said, I'm getting ready to pack my bags and make the drive, hoping that everything will work out.

Wish me luck!

Has Any One noticed the parallels between True Blood and Gay Rights

2010-06-04T10:39:00.000-04:00

Bare with me for a moment, I only just recently read the other stuff online about this episode and the parallels of gay rights. And honestly they make me laugh, cause if you watch this series for even a minute you will be a gasp with the similarities.

Lets just say that Bill Compton is a Lesbian and not a vampire. It really is amazing, he walks into places and is unwelcome, everyone doesnt accept his relationship with Sookie.

I am not really the type to watch a program and draw far fetched parallels with the characters in order to find myself in their situation, but with this show, if you are gay or you are a lesbian you cant help but have a ah ha moment, nearly every commercial break. (it doesnt have commercial breaks but you get the idea)

Ghosted Lesbian Movie Lesbian Film 2009

2010-06-04T01:47:00.000-04:00

Ghost

$22.49

Ghosted (Watch Online with Netflix)
Buy From Amazon.com - Rent From Netflix
(2009) - Drama/ Crime - In GHOSTED, German artist Sophie is trying to come to terms with the unsolved murder of her Taiwanese lover Ai-Ling. After a run-in with the seductive Mei-Li, a journalist investigating Ai-Ling's death, Sophie flees back to Germany. But when Mei-Li turns up on her Hamburg doorstep, the mystery deepens.

My Sister Sucks..... But I still love her.... ugh where to begin

2010-05-18T22:31:00.000-04:00

If you have read my crappidy Crap Crap blogs then you know how my family is!

And unfortunatly for my family there is no longer any exception to this rule.

My sister and I have always been close, she has said things to me like "I can't beleive that mom and dad have done the things to you that they have", and "I love you no matter what"

But recently me and my partner have decided to jump into the baby making stage of our wonderful lesbian lives (ps..... she makes all this madness so durable.... and a little blue eyed bundle of cuteness is probably going to make all this Crappidy Crap Crap seem so silly) but this is my truth, and it is a truth and very worth writing about :) CAUSE THEY SUCK.

The last couple of calls, my sister and I have had, have ended with hangups and screaming matches. The last call, which was my final straw..... ended with me simply asking "Do you think that gay people should get married" to which she responded "No", and "Do you think that gay people should have children?" to which she responded "No".

UGH.... when do I say enough is enough..... my partner and I had this conversation, in which I finally realized that maybe I was settling.... and that I shouldn't have to deal with such stuff......

I love my sister, I do, but when do I demand that I be held in an equal light as she, BY EVERYONE, and if she doesn't even see me in this light then what the heck am I doing continuing to try to communicate with her, ESPECIALLY in this time in my life when me an my family needs nothing but positive energy.

Just saw my parents for the first time in year (IN a picture)

2010-05-18T19:16:00.000-04:00

Its amazing how all these feelings can come back all at once..... just with a tiny thumbnmail picture.....

I truely was happy when I saw this picture, They look happy. I really do want them to be happy, regardless of what they have made me feel in the last 20ish years

Who knows, what i was doing on the day that picture was taken, they certainly don't know.

LOGO your ads make me not want to watch

2010-05-08T02:08:00.001-04:00

ok LOGO i loves you sometimes,

But what the hecks.....

I just a watched an ad for surefit something another..... and I hates it cause it said if your wife and if you husband...... THAT WAS A STRAIGHT AD..... please knock it off.... we only have one gay channel.......

You might be so popular that you are going to go straight..... oh wait .... you are..... Buffy aint gay/ lesbian/ anything but boostin your seriously lacking ratings

ugh.... maybe we should just all go straight...... NAH

Lesbian Movie Film Review Itty Bitty Titty Committee 5 Very Full Stars

2010-04-27T17:16:00.000-04:00

Itty Bitty Titty Committee

(2008) - Comedy/ Romance - Set in Los Angeles, this sardonic indie comedy helmed by Jamie Babbit follows the exploits of Anna (Melonie Diaz), a lesbian and plastic surgeon's receptionist who embarks on a wild ride when she joins a cadre of ultraradical feminists. But things get complicated when she falls in love with the group's leader (Nicole Vicius), who's already involved with someone (Melanie Mayron). Carly Pope and Lauren Mollica also star.

The Hilarity is never ending, the heart broken lead fills her time by making new friends and fighting the good fight. I was laughing all the way threw this movie at every turn I was jumping up out of my seat saying YEAH.

Characters Chemistry - Anyone who has read my reviews before will know that I am not too excited about cheating characters, but then where would the spice be. But aside from that, there was believable characters in this movie from start to finish. And the chemistry was perfect.

Cinimitography - This movie was on point, one of the best lesbian movies in regards to cinimitography, I hate when a movie is bogged down with a series lack of skill behind the camera. That isn't to say that I don't get how hard it must be to make these movies, and I give these ladies props, but as a viewer it makes some of them very hard to watch. NOT THE CASE WITH THIS ONE.

The diet over the weekend, It works but I have to cook.

2010-04-12T18:12:00.000-04:00

So this weekend, I realized I have to cook to keep up this diet. If any one wants to see what i am eating daily or my nutrition intake, feel free to email me and I will send it to you. I also have decided to jump on the treadmill when ever I can, and It seems to work I have walked almost 1 hour each day :)

I am getting antzie to get my scale so I can start seeing if I am loosing weight, I think I feel difierent but who really knows unless I see the weight coming off :)

Thats it for now

CHEERS!!!!!!!

Online game I AM OBSESSED so we decided too.......

2010-04-09T21:37:00.000-04:00

So I am obsessed with online games, I find them fun and really cool..... (Don't judge me LOL) So instead of going to other websites to play them we wanted to make a page so I could play them on our website :) So here we go.... Obsession time, here is Lesbians4Lesbians.com games page (not many now I know but there will be more everyday) here is our first 2 games PS I play these all the time

Pro Football

How many touchdowns can you score?

Play this free game now!!

Big Snow Tricks

Do amazing snowboard and ski tricks in the air!

Play this free game now!!

Day 4 of New Diet/ Eating right... Gonna try tomatoes today (low calories) and I love them

2010-04-09T13:12:00.000-04:00

So today I am going to try some fresh tomatoes as a snack, I LOVE TOMATOES, and since we are going to grow them again in our garden this year I figure I will have a lot of tomatoes to consume, (Its a good thing we are not going to grow a soft serve ice cream tree, I would be screwed LOL)

I was looking for a potassium pill yesterday at Rite Aid, and the pharmacist told me that potassium is regulated and you cant get a pill that is going to give you your daily allowance the best I found was a 5% per pill and I really don't feel like taking 20 pills a day. So I said screw it, I will just be low on Potassium.

I'm also find a great use for all of our mason jars, I wake in the morning and if I need to prepare any food for the day (like my lunch, tuna and the tomatoes) I can just make it all at once and grab it when it is time to eat. I also am sitting my snacks out so that I am not going into the cubbard because I am finding that when I see all the yummy food that I have in there that I am tempted to change what I am eating. Below are the Ball Jars I have, although these are a lot cheaper than I got them for. I think I paid 12$ for the pack. We use them all the time, I got them for our tomatoes last year, and then ended up using them for the turkey soup I make after Thanksgiving (I just put it in the freezer) and now I drink out of them too, It is good to use for this diet cause unlike a regular glass it has a measure on the side that tells me that I have 1 cup and subsequent oz's, which most of the calorie counting for drinks is measured like that. Plus it brings me back to my redneck roots LOL

What I ate today, and my nutrition intake (below)

Thats it for now CHEERS!!!!!!!

Day 3 of Diet/ Eating right -- Gonna Have some Smartfood today

2010-04-08T12:40:00.000-04:00

So the way I am doing this I am assigning myself all my meals in the morning and then sticking to it threw the day. I cheated yesterday by having a soft serve ice cream, but I also walked 45 minutes to get it. You will also see a One a day vitamin that I am taking everyday cause without it all of my vitamins are WAY too low this is the one I am taking Women's Daily

The next thing we did yesterday is buy a scale, cause I have faught so hard not to have one in the house, I refused to look at my weight. So now I have too, and we bought this exact one from Amazon yesterday, we should get it some time next week.

Here is what I ate and my Nutrition for today.

Thats it for today...... CHEERS !!!!!!!!!

I decided my side view, needs to loose a few pounds :)

2010-04-07T17:17:00.000-04:00

So this past weekend me and my partner were hanging at her pops house again. And in his bathroom he has a large mirror, and as I was about to get into the shower I caught a side view of my nude body....... AHHHHHHHHH.

Three years ago I was slim and trim and very aerodynamic LOL (look at the picture to the left). I think that when I am in a happy relationship I have a tendency to not be too concerned with my weight, for what ever reason it has made me almost as deep as I am wide (Look at the picture to the right a great view like I had in the bathroom but you can see it in my face). So I have decided to loose some weight. Then blog about my success (we can only hope)

As I was looking at my calorie intake I quickly realized I have to stop drinking sweet tea. I probably consume a gallon a day, and at about 120 calories a glass that is simply TOOOO MANY CALORIES. Just cutting this out alone might do the trick, but I also think I lack a grasp on my general diet. Vitamins and such.

I found this killer calorie counting website. click here for the website I started by logging my days on a regular basis with my tea intake. It was astounding I was consuming over 3000 calories a day. Gross right? No wonder I was gaining so much weight.
Then we decided to head to Trader Joes and get some food that was good for us as well as not full of calories (like their frozen fish) which has gotten smaller since the last time I went. But none the less we bought some good stuff for us. Since then I have reduced my calorie intake to 1200 calories a day. And I have also started walking 30 mins a day on the treadmill.

Below is a image of my calorie intake with a 3000 calorie diet with no concern about calories or diet.

Below is an idea of my vitamin/ nutrition itemized intake for a 3000 calorie diet with no concern for calories or diet.
Day one of good eating what i Ate and Nutrition values 4/6/2010 (also walked on treadmill 2.5 speed 30 mins)

Day 2 of good eating, Food I ate and the nutrition for the day (also walked on treadmill 2.5 speed 30 mins)I will try and post everyday with my daily stuff, this should help me keep it up, and if anyone wants to follow me, and do this as well feel free.

Cheers for now!!!!!!!!

I Love this Kitty LItter Box It Rockas Like Van Halen

2010-04-03T18:54:00.000-04:00

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Omega Cat liter box

What is Family? For this Lesbian :) Love you guys (family)

2010-03-22T14:56:00.000-04:00

What is family? is a group of people or animals (many species form the equivalent of a human family wherein the adults care for the young) affiliated by consanguinity, affinity or co-residence. Although the concept of consanguinity originally referred to relations by "blood", anthropologists have argued that one must understand the idea of "blood" metaphorically and that blah blah blah

Family for this lesbian are people who make me feel accepted and who intern I can accept. Hard to find I know as a lesbian but it is out there.

Take me as an example, my entire natural/ what ever family does not accept my gayness (except my super cool sister LOVES YOU)

My Parteners Family Her mother is messy (her sister is messy a reflection of her mother)

So what we have as a gay couple trying to make a family is my sister and her father, 2 very strong amazing people in our lives! Love you guys, but honestly, it is a pain in the ass to be fighting our gayness, and who we are with everyone else. So what should we do as a family..... accept those who accept us, and push away those who have no clue. And these people know who we are talking about... but we must take a stand as a family... for ourselves.... for us.... for our children.... We can accept NO LESS.....

So most family branches are able to weive their webs of distance from us, and try and obscure us. But we still exist and we still love, and we still will have our family branches to add. We will not disapear and our children will not be unheard.

This is beyond what any couple should feel when they are joining any family.... and shame on you for making any of us feel that way.... shame on you

WE WILL NOT ALLOW THAT NEGATIVE FAMILY ENERGY into out lives....... so say what you may, and post what you may, and email what you may, but your will always be on the outside..... cause trust is actions, not words.........

Living With life in a spiritual way as a lesbian. (depending on what you define spiritual)

2010-03-22T13:22:00.000-04:00

I have fought the spiritual/ religious relm of being a lesbian for all my life, my parents were southern babtist/ conventiently religious in reflection to how I see them today.

religion for me is so fraught with indicision and controll, and who is going to benifit from this other than the religion itself. Money and controll, istnt this human nature. What is divine is simply what will be. I dont want to get into religion and all the human indicisions that are amplified by religion, but I do want to say, that in the end......

We will all know what it is... to be the truth.... or not.... cause seriously not Religion or anyone thing can tell you what that is.... but follow you heart...... your truth, and the people who dont allow you to follow that truth.... ARE NOT.... involved in your path.... I can not allow peopl who ar degrimintal to who I am, Into My LIFE, OR my Families life, or MY CHILDs life....

The differences between The NORTH and the SOUTH as I see it

2010-02-13T10:05:00.000-05:00

I know this subject is a little silly, but I was thinking about this the other day how when I came from Florida up to New Hampshire driving all the way up 95 My southern mind was baffled by some of the difference I encountered on the road.

Concrete trucks - (cement Trucks) - to some of you this may come as no surprise and I never really thoguht about it at all until I was on 95 and in the opisite dirrection came a concrete truck. Now this concrete truck was driving in reverse at 60 mph. I was baffled, when I pulled over to a rest stop there was another cement truck and on closer inspection, this truck wasn't driving in reverse the barrel that holds the cement was tilted in a different dirrection making it look like it was going in reverse.

Florida cement trucks seem to pour their load over the cab of the truck like in this picture and drive with the higher end of the barrel in front.

Trucks up here pour their load from the back, and the higher end of the barrel is in the back.

This to a Floridian makes the cement truck look like it is driving in reverse.....

Sign (Bridge freezes before road) - This one seems silly but it baffled me I was divinng along and I saw a sign in front of a bridge that read "Bridge Ices Before Road" and I thought, how the hell is that possible. The bridge ALWAYS is after the road so how the hell can it freeze before the road, IN SPACE. Well it took me about 3 weeks and talking to people about it to understand that this sign was talking about TIME the bridge freezes before the road in TIME, not SPACE.

Basements - I had never been into a basement until I moved up north. From what I understand in Florida, the water table is too high to make a basement that is not constantly flooded. I dont really know why they dont have basements in Florida, but I think they should cause I love having a basement.

Crackle Barrel - I LOVE CRACKLE BARREL, but unfortunatly the further north you go the worse the Crackle Barrel is, they burn the grits the gravy on the country fried steak is GROSS. If you are going to experience Crackle Barrel you should do it in the south, where they know how to cook the dishes they are serving.

I am going to do installments of this blog, because I cant really think of anything else right now, but I am sure something else will pop into my brain with the weeks to come.

Lesbian Consumer Review - Hewlett Packerd Pavilion Entertainment PC

2010-02-09T09:27:00.000-05:00

About 7 years ago I bought a laptop to use for internet and media fun and the thing crapped out in about 3 weeks, so I got a desktop which I have always been very comfortable with using.

Since then I have expanded my computers to 3 desktops all HP's that I love. Then my sister came to visit and she had a new Laptop, I fooled around on it a little and decided that maybe I should give lap tops a try again. So my partner and I headed out to Best Buy to purchase a laptop we got this laptop (the one I am typing on) it s a HP Pavilion Entertainment PC .

We have had it for 3 months and the only thing i use my desktops for anymore is to print stuff out. I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE this laptop. The features are endless it even has a little remote control that slips conveniently in the side of the machine. If you are looking to buy a laptop and don't want to spend a lot of money but want to be able to do everything that you can think of on a computer than this computer is going to definitely make you happy.

Functionality - we got a wireless mouse because I am not very good with the touch mouse pad, but as far as touch mouse pads go this one is definitely a good one. You can tap the actual touch part and it works the same as a click. It has a full keyboard, which is a big deal considering I use the number pad on the right of key boards a lot, I usually dont ever turn off the num lock and rarely use the numbers at the top of the keyboard.

All of the ports are on the right and left of the computer instead of on the back like the other laptop I used to use. and the mic earphones jack is in the front. The only complaint I have about the ports is that the AC adapter plugs into the right side of the computer and since I am right handed and use a wireless mouse it gets in the way at times, but not enough to upset me except when it accidentally clips the left mouse key cause I get too close.

The Programs that come with it - I do a lot of video on you-tube and I used to use a Sony program called Vegas Studio (I loved it) cause I was already used to using Sony Acid Pro for music. But this computer came with a video editor and I decided to try it out it is called Power Director. I like it so I am using that instead of Vegas Studio and it functions very similar.

Windows 7 - Just as all the new windows take a moment to get used too, this is no different but many of the functions are the same, I personally like that any active windows that would normally only be signified by a text description that the window is about at the bottom of the screen. You can now click on it and it shows you a tiny little screen of what page/ program is open, and since I am a very visual person this is brilliant, I don't have to click threw all my open windows I can immediately identify the window I want to access.

My Partner swears by Macs and she says that some of the functions of Windows 7 are similar to the functions on a Mac (I wouldn't know about this I have never used a Mac)

My desktop has Windows Media Center from about 3 years ago, and this laptop has the new improved version. It interacts with the remote and you can watch online TV threw several secure sources. What is even better is if you have netflix and want to utilize the Watch instantly you can use Netflix threw the media center as well.

In Closing - This Laptop has easily surpassed my desktop which is only about 3 years old. It is faster it is much easier and fun to navigate. My only suggestion is that if you have more than one computer happy person in your home, I would get two, cause the two of you are going to be fighting over who gets to use the laptop, and priced at 700 - 800 bucks it isn't going to break your bank.

CHEERS!!!!

Do Animals know when a person has ill intent, or is a bad person?

2010-01-26T19:37:00.000-05:00

I have often wondered if animals know if someone is a bad person or a person who has ill intent.

The more I get to know people, and get to know my animals, I have begun to think that this is not just some myth, but a very real reality.

OMAR - About ten years ago I had this cat Omar, who was a handsome prince and a tailless wonder. He was constantly going in and out of my cottage on the cape, I worried about coyotes but he was a tailless wonder and could fight off anything he put his princely mind too. He proved this to me on numerous occasions, chasing off the indignant 50 to 100lb raccoons away from our cottage with a vengeance.

When a new gal moved into my life, and his, he was not pleased. When she first came over I thought he was just jealous. I couldn't honestly tell if she was much more than hot, as she was a Brazilian Goddess and I was young and not really looking for more than just someone to occupy my time. She spoke very little English, and as our days passed I learned more Portuguese then she learned English. Omar never liked her, and she never like him. She would say things like "Cat is Evil". I wasn't too concerned as I didn't plan on spending the rest of my life with her.

We were together for about three months when Omar went missing, and I thought that my fearless prince was lost in the cape. I put up fliers EVERYWHERE, to no avail. The Brazilian Goddess and I parted ways and I moved to a different house. I still maintained my friendships with others in the Brazilian community, and I found out later that this Brazilian woman had taken Omar in her car and let him loose about 30 miles from my home.

I often wonder if I should have listened to him, and kicked her out of my life as soon as he showed a dislike. Omar knew and I should have listened.

LOVER - I went to the ASPCA, on the cape in Hyannis and I was looking for a cat. I walked into their cat room when they only had 5 minutes until they closed. When I walked in, "Lover" (his name was Christpherscarpopholic at the time) was sitting on top of a cage in a free range area that had about 20 cats just chilling in this room. He nodded at me atop his perch. I walked up to him and he was exactly at my head level, him and I made out for about 5 minutes. I instantly fell in love. I wanted to make sure he was cool with me picking him up, so I picked his HUGE ASS up and held him. He gripped up on me like a child grips up on their mother. He also had HUGE paws, with 7 toes on one paw and 8 on the other.

I placed him back on his handsome perch and walked right out to pay the monies and get my handsome boy. The lady at the desk said "we are closed, you are going to have to come back tomorrow." I seriously almost cried. Another lady came out at that moment and said "you want to adopt Christpherscarpopholic, I will take care of it."

My Lover came home with me. Him and I became inseparable, and I NEVER let him outside. I also would never let a non animal lover into my house without me around anymore.

His Intuition - I decided that I should have someone rent my extra room, and a gal that I knew was looking for a place to stay, expressed an interest. She seemed OK enough and I decided to let her rent the room. Immediately Lover did not like her, would hide when she was around, and would become aggressive when he couldn't get away from her. One night, he was at the top of the stairs and she was coming down (I wasn't there but she told me what happened as well as me seeing the gash in her leg), Lover lunged at her and ripped her calf open through her jeans. Released, and then lunged again.

Skipping many of the details I will just give the outcome of the main points. She attempted to sell drugs out of the house. She had a heroin addict over to the house, who was only 1 week clean, and going to a methadone clinic to subsidies her addiction (this gal eventually became her GF). Would go weeks without coming home to tend to her dog. This list could go on and on, but I will spare you the bore of the obvious jerk that she was. She was kicked out!

Again, another animal told me who shouldn't be in our lives......

It hasn't always been so negative with my animal's intuition, they have often approved of people I bring into our home, and our lives. Take Lover's obsession with sleeping on my partner's head, literally right on her head draped around her like a winter hat, almost like he needs to be there to keep her warm.

Possible it is just my desire to have someone, something, tell me before it happens who is good or bad. Something that is aware of the core existence of someone without the mirage that many people portray.

The Coolest gift in the whole wide world - Le Sommeil "Sleep" 1866, Gustave Courbet

2010-01-20T10:48:00.000-05:00

This Christmas Randi's Pop gave us a framed print of this painting Le Sommeil "Sleep" 1866, Gustave Courbet

original poetry, by DD

2010-01-20T00:17:00.000-05:00

What is it that takes your last breath?

Is it the breath that will not come? or is it the desparity of things left undone?

Possibly your heart, that refuses to beat?

Or Your lungs that just wont breath?

Could it be your aging mind that has only decayed with time?

It is only the inconsistencies of lifes depravities that makes us flesh.... that makes us death.

Lesbian Southern Religious Christmas Present from Parents this 2010 holiday season.... what the heck

2010-01-16T20:27:00.000-05:00

My homophobic parents present this 2009 season. gosh I didnt think i was this upset about them..... but then i started making this video and goodness, I had to take a break every couple days for fear i might break down.... so here it is a couple days behind.... ps they really suck.....

We got engaged - What that means too this Lesbian couple

2009-12-28T10:12:00.001-05:00

I have always dreamed of a traditional wedding, a traditional engagement. But the way I always assumed it would be was me proposing to my girlfriend. Even as a young child I would dream of having to speak with my fiance to be's father and ask for her hand in marriage. It was something that I thought about just as much as a straight young girl would think about proposal, her wedding.

But for years I assumed it was just wishful thinking, whimsical fantasies. I pushed those dreams of childhood away. I am sure that those dreams were suppressed because the traditional family acceptance was not something that my journey had in store for me. Without family support, much of the dreams that are fed by a family became something that I was sure was lost with my family. It is amazing how much your family's acceptance can suppress things that you held of value that they taught you, almost like every thing that they taught you must vanish with them.

Enter The Love of My Life - What an amazing woman. When she walked into my life, nothing would ever be the same. All of the things that I had wanted as a child suddenly became real again. All the hopes of a family of my own, the way it had to be for me suddenly became excitingly clear.

My girl and I started talking about the dreams of my past, having children, getting married, buying a house. My desire to build a family of my own suddenly seemed possible. So I did what felt natural, I asked her to spend the rest of her life with me, and prayed that I would spend the rest of mine standing next to her. I got down on bended knee. It felt just as I had hoped it would, with tears of joy and the excitement of tomorrow, uttered with just one word "yes".

Since this we have talked about the wedding the wheres, the whens, the who's and the who not's. It feels so right.

In telling people, we have had so much acceptance, her step brother got engaged at around the same time. And when we went to pops house for Christmas all of her pops friends congratulated us as I had always thought it would be.

The fight for my right to marry was a fight within myself. Our community has so much that we have to do to make this a reality for us. For me the reality is within me, within my love for my fiance, and within the love and acceptance of our family. I was blessed with such an amazing woman, who gave me the strength to remember my dreams and allows me the strength everyday to obtain those goals together.

I love you BB.

Venus Boyz 2002 Lesbian Movie Review Film Review

2009-11-13T12:40:00.000-05:00

Venus Boyz 2002
5 Stars

A film journey through a universe of female masculinity. A legendary Drag King Night in New York is the point of departure for an odyssey to transgendered worlds, where women become men - some for a night, others for their whole lives. What motivates them? What changes take place? What do they dream of? The drag kings of New York meet in clubs and change lustfully into their male alter egos, parodying them and exploring male eroticism and power strategies. In London we see women experiment with hormones to become new men and 'cyborgs'. Masculinity and transformation as performance, subversion or existential necessity.

I dig documentaries, always love seeing the reality of other peoples lives set out for me in a 2 hour or less easy to comprehend platform.

I had always wanted to see this documentary and I am super glad I did, many of the thoughts and questions I have said to myself about gender roles and the blurring of those lines were expressed by many of the characters in this documentary. I say characters only because they portray themselves as their day to day self, and as their drag characters. So to specify a specific person in this review would be specifying the character, whom is several persona's or realities.

It is really awesome to watch such a lucid, open exploration of gender which is told from several different perspectives. You should definitely watch this if you get a chance it was well well well worth it.

If you are looking for a drag king documentary, YOU HAVE FOUND IT
If you are looking for a gender identity documentary, YOU HAVE FOUND IT
If you are looking for a societal gender exploration documentary, YOU HAVE FOUND IT

CHEERS

Mango Kiss 2004 Lesbian Movie Review Film Review 4.5 STARS

2009-11-07T13:12:00.000-05:00

Mango Kiss 2004
4.5 Stars

Lou and Sass are performance art partners and best friends who have recently moved to San Francisco. Shy Lou's life turns upside down when she confesses her passion for the outgoing Sass, and they change from roommates to lovers. The path to romantic bliss takes a wide detour, however, when they meet new friends with some rather frisky ideas.

The beginning - "This is a cautionary tail" told in a narrative by Lou, and it is cute how she explains their journey to San Francisco. Lou is a lot like every androgynous lesbian I have ever met. Self confident, adorable, and opinionated with the knowledge of living.

The Acting - Is believable and the chemistry is palpable. I am a firm believer that if the acting sucks in the movie, it doesn't matter how good the story is, it will suck suck suck in my eyes. But I do believe that when the acting is on point it can make a moderately amusing story a brilliant masterpiece. This is most definitely the case with this movie, a moderately amusing story line is lifted to an excellent movie with the acting and chemistry.

Story line - I love how it pauses for Lou to explain the characters. It totally adds a different level of funness (yes I made that word up) that the story line wouldn't have with out it. The casting is done very well Not just for the leads Lou and Sass but also for the supporting characters. I can see many of my friends in their faces. Which is important to make the story line believable. The story line is a little slow, not slow enough to make you go to sleep but slow enough to make you loose interest at moments. So I am taking away a half a star for the slowness. I also like the tattoo headers that lead you threw the story line. Very cool, they are obviously painted on tattoos, but they still look cool.

Sexy Scenes - Very Sexy, I do beleive that they were getting off groping each others breast SEXY. Then Lou starts talking about it and yummy well said. HOT

Non Monogamy Experiment - eeekkkkk. To each their own, but I seriously don't identify with this, the mother said it all. "In theory its great, but in practice it gets kind of messy"

The make believe - these moments are cute but I really don't get the point, although it might have something to do with the whole role playing that they are getting into with each other, moderately cute but a little infantile if you ask me. It kind of takes away from the sexyness of it all.

Cinematography - GREAT - a lot of times lesbian titles look like they were shot with a camcorder, because of this i like to note how good or bad the chromatography is, so that you can get an idea of how it looks.

The Ending - Loved it, it roled around so that I felt that it culminated so I can sleep at night, there is nothing worse than being left to wonder...... what the hell just happened.

As Far as a movie goes I really didn't identify with the storyline or the characters at all, the whole Domination roleplay thing is not something that I have ever been interested in. But then i think to myself that I don't have to have a paralleled to the story to find it entertaining. Like does every person find a parallel to Robo Cop, I certainly don't, but I found it very entertaining. As I do with this movie. This isn't a must see, but it is certainly a you should watch it if you get the opportunity.

CHEERS!!!!!

Love & Suicide 2006 Lesbian Movie Review Film Review 2 STARS

2009-11-04T15:51:00.000-05:00

Echoing Peter Jackson's 1994 drama Heavenly Creatures, this gripping tale of a female friendship gone awry is also based on a true -- and tragic -- story. When Kaye (Sarah Reardon) moves to New Orleans with her family and finds herself friendless in the halls of a new high school, she quickly latches on to the aggressively sexual Emily (Stella Johnson), whose influence ignites a dangerous passion between them.

The Story - I can certainly relate to the story line. Two High School Girls Fall in love, and struggle as a couple and individuals with being lesbians. One of the girls mothers is a strict religious woman who says things like "Homosexuals are going to hell" So I get it, very moving, and I gave this movie 1 star for the story line being relatable and another star for the ending (Ill get into the ending later)

Acting - SUCKED, the rhythm of the acting was all over the place, marks were missed and you could tell that they were acting. Their was some moderate talent in the bunch but the acting only made me think I could have done this movie.

Cinematography - SUCKED, again it made me think I could get a bunch of my friends together with my Camcorder write a moderate script and make a movie. So I guess it inspired me, that is a plus!

Sound - I have never made a movie so I am sure it is very hard to get the sound right from scene to scene, but this was OFF. In one scene it would be as quite as a whisper with some sort of background sound that took away from the dialog and then in the next scene the dialog would be so loud I had to turn it down and it freaked out the cats.

The ending - I like it, It was sad, but I thought it was a great spin on a truth that our community deals with every day. So I gave this another star for the ending.

So in short it is not a must see, but it isn't a total bust.

CHEERS!!!!!

FingerSmith Lesbian Movie Review Film Review 5 STARS

2009-11-04T14:08:00.000-05:00

FingerSmith 2005
Very Full Stars !!!!!

Susan Trinder has been brought up in a house of thieves in London. She gets sucked into a plot by a family friend. She becomes Maud Lilly's maid so as to get her to marry Mr Richard Rivers. They plan to put Maud in a mental asylum once she marries so they can claim access to her £40,000. The plan becomes a nuisance when Susan mistakenly falls in love with Maud.

The best movie ever, if you like these period pieces. I didnt expect very much from this movie. As I was watching it I was blown away. It is long, the first half is was brilliant as a love story as a plot and when it was over I litterly clapped I was so excited there was another Hour in and half to go :)

The second half was even better the twist and turns that it takes you on will have you on the edge of your seat wondering what is going to happen next. The love that these two women have for each other is amazing enough to stand alone as a movie. But then as the plot thickens this movie becomes a masterpiece.

Character - the characters were bold and relatable. From the servants to the Uncle every actor played their part flawlessly. LOVED THEM ALL

The Plot - Will keep you on the edge of your seat the entire time, and you will be wanting more.

The ending - If you have read any of my other reviews you will know that I hate movies that leave you hanging on at the end, saying "What the hell" This movie takes you on a whirl wind ride of emotions and then plops you back into a world that you wanted all along for this couple. HAPPY ENDING, leaving you feeling GREAT

Cheers!!!!!

Sabrina Matthews HILARIOUS lesbian stand up comedian

2009-09-25T12:03:00.000-04:00

Sabrina Matthews Website - Sabrina Matthews Myspace

We first heard of Sabrina Matthews when she became our friend on MySpace, I thought she was just another lesbian surfing MySpace for the word lesbian, and subsequently stumbled onto our profile. But when our chum Wheezer from The Cooter Cafe Podcast asked us to instigate an interview with Sabrina, we realized she was a comedian.

The Cooter Cafe Interview with Sabrina

We then realized she was going to be at SisterSpace 2009, we still had not listened to her mp3s or knew much more about her other than she was a comedian. I love watching comedians, but I am frequently disappointed because if someone is on stage as a comedian, I have the expectation to be rolling on the floor with laughter. Sabrina Matthews came on stage and I was moderately amused at first and then I was laughing so hard my sides hurt. As I looked around the room she had kept everyone in their seats, and everyone was holding their sides from the pain that she had inflicted. You know of the laughter that you turn to who every is next to you and in the midst of yet another bought of laughter you squeeze out the words, "oh god, it hurts".

Now when i think of Sabrina Matthews I think "She made me laugh so hard it HURT"

Subsequently after her performance (is that what it is called with a comedian). She stuck around, and the following day as we were driving around picking up trash (we volunteered for the trash crew for the weekend, not as horrible as you might think quite fun actually) and one of our two hour volunteers spotted Sabrina on the steps of the performers quarters (the white house). The volunteer had a thick accent I think Latin of some sort and she screamed across the 200 yard span that stood between her and Sabrina "You make me pee my pant". Sabrina walked over and struck up a conversation with the 9 of us, introduced her self personally to each of us. At this point I was so enveloped by the weekend I had completely forgot that I had communications with her prior to the weekend, (Now looking back I wonder if she knew who Randi and I were, probably not, if I didn't have a clue who she was then how could she know who we were).

After we finished our trash duties we were heading down to lunch, Sabrina was sitting down the table from us and in front of us was about 8 women with no shirts and painted upper bodies (really cool I might add) at some point 2 of the women started to partake in some cupcake madness which involved nipples and the yummy cupcakes which had been presented as desert (I had about 5 of them threw the weekend they were freaking yummy). These two topless painted gals seemed to share in my opinion of the yummyness. They were licking the yummyness off of one another exposed breast for such lengths of time that i was sure someone was going to have to resuscitate them due to lack of air intake. Sabrina, was making comments to which I couldn't hear because the laughter to her comments was so loud.

So if you every have a chance to watch Sabrina Matthews Stand up routine, DO NOT MISS IT, and if you hang out on a regular basis with Sabrina Mathews, then I hope you wear Depends (the adult diaper) cause I am sure you are contently peeing your pants.

And Sabrina Matthews or whom ever was present at the cupcake nipple incident at SisterSpace 2009, I ask "What was it that you/ she said?"

Cheers!!!!!!

Lesbian Consumer Review Timex Expedition Watch Indiglo

2009-09-22T10:58:00.000-04:00

True Story. I am rummaging threw my drawers in the gym looking for a program that I need to install on my computer, and I come across a watch that had been long lost to my memory as well as being on my wrist. I get all excited because I can remember when I bought it, and how excited I was that I could just push the knob on the side and it would light up like magic on my wrist. I was totally expecting that if my new found watch was going to enter my world of now that I was going to have to replace the batteries or get some work done on it. Because in my experience most thing that have been lost to you for years, need such attention to bring it back to life, and back to your standards of working.

Surprise Surprise, the time on the watch was dead on, and the date was as well now as when I bought it (probably more so) i love me this watch. it is a Timex Expedition Indiglo WR 50M.

It really seems like so much just doesn't work the way it is supposed to anymore, or that you have to have an excessive knowledge of some high falootin technology in order to get it to work. Finding this watch is a lot like finding my faith in things that just fucking work!

Bare with me for a moment as i feel a need to rant. If everything worked like this watch then maybe just maybe we as a new found technology people wouldn't be so disillusioned when our damn computer farts at you and says "operation unauthorized" or maybe if we never got so indulged in such technologies then we wouldn't feel this anxt.

There are times when I would like to take my pickup truck and all my camping gear and just live in the woods back to the primitive existence that our fore-mothers held so dear to their hearts, and somewhere we have gotten lost in the megabits, and the ram, and the windows operating system that we have lost the warmth of a campfire, and experiencing each other on a personal level.

Catch 22 if that were the way of the world, the what if's, the lets take it all back, you wouldn't be reading this blog, and our website would cease to exist. So I guess you have to take the good with the bad, the computer failures that have you pulling you hair out, with the momentary jubilation of a Timex watch from yesteryear that despite me putting it in a drawer kept working and was there waiting, keeping time, ready to glow at a touch of the knob.

And know I sit here listening to the ticking of such said watch in my left ear. And I remember that the loudness of its time keeping might be why I put it away in the first place.

Hannah Free 2010 Lesbian Film Review Movie Review LOVE IT

2009-09-08T17:02:00.001-04:00

Hannah Free – Film Festival Obligations/ Screenings – Official Website

If you are in for a tear jerker you are going to LOVE this movie. It will have you empathizing, laughing, crying and wanting to sit down with her, grab a cup of Joe and hear all about the stories from the past.

Synopsis - Hannah and Rachel grew up as little girls in the same small Midwest town, where traditional gender expectations eventually challenge their deep love for one another. Hannah becomes an adventurous, unapologetic lesbian and Rachel a strong but quiet homemaker. Weaving back and forth between past and present, the film reveals how the women maintained their love affair despite a marriage, a world war, infidelities, and family denial.

Hannah Free is a feature-length motion picture shot in HD for distribution in worldwide theatrical and ancillary markets.

IF YOU DON’T WANT A SPOILER DON’T READ BELOW

Set the Stage - Hannah is a woman, who has found herself in a nursing home. I don’t want to give too much away. But her partner for 40+ years is in the same home only down the hall. Her partner’s family will not allow Hanna to see her partner.

This story was well timed from beginning to end. You find yourself wanting to know more about each character. You are brought threw a journey with this lesbian couple as they grow up together find themselves with one another, and struggle through the wonder lust and the desire to hold on to a love that is so real.

Break my heart, and finding hope within a seemingly hopeless plight. Hannah finds help in a young woman who seems to just be in the home to visit old folks. But threw the movie a twist unveils itself and only adds to an already compelling story.

THE END – is one that you will not soon forget. It is timeless and this is where all of the tears are going to flow, with a mixture of tears and a surprising joy.

The Characters – are well casted and you believe every minute, movies are something that I watch to take myself into a situation and in order for me to LOVE it I have to believe it. The parts are so well performed that you find yourself lost for the duration of the movie. When the lights came on I didn’t want the movie to end.

The Film Quality – If you have read any of my other reviews you will find that one of my biggest pet peeves about a movie is when the film quality takes away from a film. This film is well made and seamlessly edited so if you are into crappy film quality movies, do not look here.

In closing – If you get a chance to catch this film at many of its film festival obligations this 2009 / 2010 season, you should be the first in line. If you read this review after it has excited Film Festivals then rent it buy it, you are going to love it. (But make sure you have some tissue handy you are going to need it)

Cheers......

"Dyke Bitch" Being Hated on, On a Friday Morning

2009-08-21T10:57:00.000-04:00

It was a bright Friday morning, my partner and I were driving to work. When she stopped at a yellow light. The guy behind her was upset that he couldn’t run a red light and get to work a millisecond earlier than he would now get to work. He was yelling and screaming and shooting us the bird the entire red light (about 2 minutes). Our way of dealing with crazy drivers like that is to smile and wave, and say “have a nice day”. This usually pisses them off more than joining in on the excessive unwarranted angry behavior.

So the light turns green, and we drive threw turning left. He follows us, mere inches from our rear bumper. My Partner slams on the breaks and he has to swerve to avoid hitting our truck (which has a gay rainbow sticker on the back). The first chance he gets he pulls up next to us, and starts screaming at my partner, at this point he can’t see me. He proceeds to tell her “I am going to fucking kill you” “I will cut your fucking car in half”. I lean forward and he instantly recognizes some word usage that he could throw my way. He screams “Fucking dyke bitch” and speed off.

When I get called a dyke simply because of how I look (like a dyke) I see nothing but red. He cut us off at the next light and the red bull can that I had in my hand (only half full) was tossed at his car and landed on the hood with a lob throw and splashed all over his car (a perfect throw I can attribute to playing softball since I was 2 years old). At this point he stops at a green light and gets out of his car, and I promptly followed by getting out of the truck. He says “ oh you’re going to fucking throw a can at my car” I said “Yes I am, you want to call me a fucking dyke bitch that is what you fucking get” He replies with “I can see I was right” to which I become even more enraged and I say, “Yeah your fucking right, and this dyke bitch is going to kick your ass” as I took 3 big steps towards his car. My partner laid on the horn and didn’t stop to draw attention to the situation. He promptly got into his car and speed threw the now red light to get away from a situation that if the police had arrived would have been considered a Hate Crime via verbal assault……

Hate crimes (also known as bias-motivated crimes) occur when a perpetrator targets a victim because of his or her perceived membership in a certain social group, usually defined by racial group, religion, sexual orientation, disability, ethnicity, nationality, age, gender, gender identity, or political affiliation.

"Hate crime" generally refers to criminal acts which are seen to have been motivated by hatred of one or more of the listed conditions. Incidents may involve physical assault, damage to property, bullying, harassment, verbal abuse or insults, or offensive graffiti or letters.

Is this incident a hate crime? Would he have been arrested if the police showed up? In my eyes it is, seeing the rainbow flag on the back of our truck enraged him. But My partner doesn’t look like a lesbian, so the slurs did not come out of his mouth until he laid eyes on me. And it escaladed even faster once he did see me. Could I have been charged with a crime? Probably? But one thing is for sure (hopefully) he will think twice next time before he calls someone a dyke in such a way again.

I always feel bad when this sort of instances are over. I think “I shouldn’t have been so aggressive, I should have handled things differently” and then my partner reminds me that without outbursts, and defiance against such hateful behavior people who insist on using such words like dyke as a weapon will not learn that it is a weapon, and there are repercussions for such behavior, weather it being charged with a hate crime or having a Dyke Bitch almost loose her mind on you. I can only hope that for every occurrences I have that it will prevent 1,000 more from happening.

Homophobia might be a Cartoon, but it still aint CUTE

2009-08-14T16:03:00.000-04:00

This video is appalling..... Dan and Micheal are infect having a BBQ, with the people who have chosen to discriminate against them, I think Dan and Micheal should let this straight narrow minded couple have their damn BBQ, and sit in their bigoted house hold and wait for the day when their god will be more than happy to judge them at the pearly gates. I think that some religious folks might be sad to find out that they are not going to be allowed in, and they can watch all the gays, and lesbians walk right past them. MARRIED OR NOT BITATCHES......

Karmina's Debut ALbum "The Kiss"

2009-08-14T15:28:00.000-04:00

"The Kiss" is the first video from Karmina's debut album, Backwards Into Beauty. Karmina's video features real-life couples who overcame the pressures of friends, familiy or cultures in order to be together. The song is influenced by Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet and the imagery of painter Gustav Klimt, both of whom are big influences on Karmina members Kelly & Kamille.

Johnnie Walker - Lesbian Themed Commercial - Marriage

2009-08-14T13:38:00.000-04:00

Silver Jet - Lesbian Theme Commercial

2009-08-14T13:25:00.000-04:00

Women Only Bathrooms

Miller Genuine Draft - lesbian commercial

2009-08-14T13:17:00.000-04:00

An attractive blonde woman orders a drink from the bar. While looking around the rest of the room, she spots an attractive masculine-looking figure on the opposite side of the room and signals the bartender for two beers. When she takes the beer to the other person, she realizes it is, in fact, a woman. The blonde looks conflicted and nervous for a few moments, before eventually smiling at the other woman and leaning in to talk. The ad closes with the slogan "Never Miss a Genuine Opportunity"
Gayness, bisexuality or being transgendered is treated as a non-issue in these commercials. Like people of color are now often shown, gays are included in vignettes and sometimes in the mix of a larger campaign. This may be what the future of gays in commercials will look like: part of a larger whole. These ads meet Commercial Closet's Best Practices.

Jim Bean Commercial Lesbian Theme (NOT A Tragedy)

2009-08-14T13:12:00.000-04:00

501 Levi - Lesbian Theme Commercial

2009-08-14T13:02:00.001-04:00

501 Levi - Lesbian Theme Commercial

Toyota Commercial - Funny Lesbian (Canada)

2009-08-14T12:58:00.000-04:00

Funny Commerial with a Lesbian Theme

Funny Lesbian Song - Had me this one Girlfriend

2009-08-14T12:56:00.000-04:00

Lumberjacks weekend fun!

National Organization for Marriage: the real fear

2009-08-14T12:04:00.000-04:00

parody of NOM

National Organization for Marriage - FUNNY

2009-08-14T11:59:00.000-04:00

Abe and Beth have a conversation about gay marriage.

National Organization for Marriage Response

2009-08-14T11:56:00.000-04:00

Gay School- Part Two - Hilarious Adaptiation of a film

2009-08-14T11:51:00.000-04:00

Is Peggy Gay? 1950's sitcom based around a fully homosexual. In Part 2 of this award winning, groundbreaking television series, Peggy makes a choice, but does Gay School rejoice?

Gay School- Part One - Hilarious Adaptiation of a film

2009-08-14T11:49:00.000-04:00

Is Peggy Gay? 1950's sitcom based around a fully homosexual family from Northern Europe. Subtitled

Old Homosexual Warning Video - Scary How they Used to think (still do)

2009-08-14T11:35:00.000-04:00

The clip is taken from a film dealing with a perceived danger to young boys: Homosexuals!!! Unbelievable!

Catching The Gay - Funny Video

2009-08-14T11:02:00.000-04:00

A Comedy Short from The Leading Brand: A 1950's styled educational filmstrip warning children about the dangers of catching homosexuality. Stars Dan Boughamer, Bohan, Colleen Doyle, James Asmus, and Jim Fath

Yudu Screen Printer - Lesbian Consumer Review - GENIUS

2009-08-12T16:51:00.000-04:00

Yudu personal Screen printers, genius in a little box that looks like a scanner.

So we went to a craft store with every intention of buying one of these so that we could make shirts to give away for the website Lesbians4Lesbians.com. Everything is perfectly packaged for ease of use, watch the video above and see everything that this little machine can do. It is very very very very very very very very cool.

Make your design, put it on the shirt and give them away, or sell them, or wear them. FREAKING GENIOUS

CHEERS!!!!!

Can Opener - Lesbian Consumer Review - Love the Concept - but it broke

2009-08-12T16:33:00.001-04:00

Ok, I know silly right and fucking can crusher you say, and damn can crusher. But this is a Lesbian consumer review and I am a lesbian, and I did consume this can crusher (not in the meaning of ate the damn can crusher) but you get the idea. So here is what I think about this can crusher my ladies!

Loved it at first – we used it day after day, can after can and it worked like a charm, only problem was that I installed it on a plywood wall (you know the kind that makes a wall look really cool but it is only covering up a dilapidated dry wall that is just behind it, and you can hear it fall apart when you screw or nail something in) anyways, it didn’t fasten itself to this wall very well, and it takes some skill to crush the cans now. This is all very fine and good. Then after about 6 months of owning it, the handle broke.

Not loving it so much anymore – after the handle broke, it was a small miracle if you could manage to crush the cans without it flying across the kitchen. So we took it down, and we threw it away.

I miss the can crusher – the whole idea of a can crusher is FABULOUS if it didn’t break and I do wish we still had it. Guess I am going to have to go find a really good one now

Jane And Jane (Not a monthly but still a good Mag)

2009-08-12T16:12:00.000-04:00

Established in 2006, Jane and Jane combines intelligent editorial with a contemporary design to create the most sophisticated lesbian magazine on the market today. With an unrivaled focus on a mature and professional demographic of women, Jane and Jane features top-notch editorial on travel, relationships, entertainment, food, health and politics—all presented in an elegant and honorable manner that won’t make you blush. Jane and Jane is available in both print and digital subscriptions as well as at major booksellers throughout the United States and Canada. Finally, a magazine that elevates the lesbian community and gives new meaning to the word Pride.

Curve Magazine For the lesbian in all of us!

2009-08-12T15:51:00.000-04:00

If you're lesbian you are probably already aware that it can be difficult to receive news and information pertaining directly to you from other periodicals. This magazine succeeds in covering this void that is often ignored by other media publications. CURVE delivers news, entertainment, human interest, and travel features focusing exclusively on the lesbian community. I have read this magazine for many years and have found it to be an invaluable resource. With a conscious effort to include racial, class, and ability differences I believe CURVE appeals to virtually every lesbian audience. It is mailed in a black wrapper to protect privacy (for those who are concerned). Despite my praises there are downfalls. Issues are not published every month and the magazine's short length can be a disappointment. But regardless, I continue to subscribe to CURVE because I feel it is well worth reading.

LOTL Lesbian Magazine. Classie Mag

2009-08-12T15:25:00.000-04:00

LOTL, an acronym for Lesbians on the Loose is focused on the niche market of international lesbian culture. LOTL prides itself on its innovative design, outstanding features, award winning writing staff and reliably premium quality and content. LOTL has earned its reputation for excellence, winning an Australian best editorial coverage award.

LOTL Magazine is published monthly and can be purchased as a hard copy subscription (mailed in a plain envelop to ensure privacy) or a digital subscription. To Subscribe click on the Front cover to your right and follow instructions

Living with My Lesbian Sister, NO MORE

2009-07-19T17:41:00.000-04:00

My partner and I kicked out her sister 1 month ago.... and it was much needed.... i could sit here and tell you all of the reasons why, (but with out going into some detrimental details to her character) I will just say that...... I didn't work out.......

So Living With my Lesbian Sister will not continue.... because she is no longer living with her lesbian sister.....

"Opppppssssss there is so many Dawns, I dont know which to choose"

2009-07-18T00:34:00.001-04:00

In retrospect to the crappidy crap crap email, from me Mother.... I thought that I might share the Crappidy Crap Crap from me brother (keep in mind.... that due to my sisters "egging on" I have only recently had the courage to share this CRAP on this blog) These emails were sent in the past 3 months....... and were a precurser to the crappidy crap crap that my mother sent....... OH IF ONLY I HAD SAVED THE OTHER CRAPPIDY CRAP CRAP!!!!!

My brothers FIRST accidental email..... opppppps..... Dawn is such a common name..... BIATCH (I love saying that it just makes me laugh BIATCHES)

Bruce - SUBJECT LINE ONLY (his name appears in my in box so of course I take notice) did you email me the COB calcs you did?‏

Dawn - I would have if I knew what a COB calc. was and I had done it :) Dawn

Bruce - The *omitted for personal purposes* OB worksheet you did this morning. No biggie. I will scan what you gave me. I’m all about the paperless….have a great weekend.

Dawn - Bruce, this is Dawn, your sister!!!! Your silly, Dawn

Bruce - Dughh… I have an employee named Dawn and I just changed computers today, so something in outlook must be pulling you in. I had no idea this email was current. I know your phone is out of date. How are you doing? You never call or write? I hear from Mom and Goldi that everything is ok with you. My life has been crazy hectic, school, work and three kids to keep up with. As you can see, I don’t pay close attention to email. I literally get about 750 emails a week. My personal email (Cant actually put this in the blog other wise I would be a JERK) Send me a message and tell me what you are up to! I love you! Bruce.

Dawn - No worries, I smiled when I saw your name :). I will take a minute this weekend and email you. Give my love to Lisa tell her I said Hey! I love you too, Dawn

Dawn - Hey, I cant bruce, I understand that you accidentaly emailed me but, no! It was accidental, what is diffirent? Nothing? Nada! I wish you and yours the best of luck! I love you DD

Bruce - Not sure what you are taking about. I thought you were going to email me. What has been happening? With us it is the usual craziness. Someone is always sick in the winter at any given time, but this year we all got the flu. It snowed a couple of weeks ago and tree fell on my car. The boys had a lot of fun. Pics are on facebook which I just joined. My boss just got canned which made the last month or so insanely busy. On top of that, one of my employees is leaving on maternity leave (Dawn). I hired a temp who turned out to be this crazy ex pagent queen who I fired pretty quickly. Now she is stalking me, my staff, and my boss online and email. Been dealing with her this week. Anyway, griffy is crying. Gotta go. R u on fb? Love, Bruce.

Dawn ( ok gals or whom ever, I put a lot of thought into this email...... so as I am writing this blog I am saying to my sister, partner and myself...... its good...... you said what you needed too!.... here it is.... it is hard to put it our of the private realm and into the public realm.....)

Hey Bruce,

It is just a little disheartening that the first email or communication I get from you in 7 or so years is an accident, not that I am one to scrutinize a good thing when it comes along. But I also am not the type to have conversation with niceties when there is a pink elephant in the room!

I do miss you Bruce, of all of the people I have lost because of my stand, which I will never falter from, you have hurt the most. It has taken me a long road of coming to terms, but my journey has come to a place of peace with all that has happened. And it is hard for me to even see Mom, Dad, Keith and your name. Because I have come to terms with it all, a peace.

And when ever those names come to pass, it seems to bring up a time in my life that I do not wish to revisit! I can’t begin to try and explain it. I have been alone with the exception of Goldi, and people who have provided me strength in my life, and it has taken me a long time to forgive you, Mom and Dad. Keith is someone I never felt close with so the loss of that relationship in my life was less hurtful, and doesn't hurt as much when I see his name or think of the time lost!

We could spend time now talking about who was to blame, and who didn’t pick up the phone, but that is simply futile, you have had a life swirling around you, I have had a life swirling around me, and now that leads us to here. I forgive you, and I forgive mom and dad. But that does not mean that I can allow people in my life to which I feel will only bring hurt. That seems to be the case with mom and dad, and I simply do not want anything to do with them. You are a different bird…. I can come to terms enough with you to be able to carry on a relationship now, but mom and dad are still stuck in their ways, which is not healthy for me to be a part of!

Now that the pink elephant has been pointed out!

That stinks about your car, I bet that was a shocking site to see, what kind of car was it? How bad was it crushed? That is crazy about the temp…. people can be so odd, you never know until it is a crucial point that you realize, how crazy some people really are, usually to late to keep the distance that was needed in the first place.

Facebook, yes I am on facebook, or my website is, I had to put the account under my name because facebook doesn’t allow business profiles,

http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#/profile.php?id=1195654379&ref=profile

Our website (my partner Randi) and I is a community site that provides a wide range of resources for our community. It is a lot of work, but it is well worth it, we have met a lot of amazing people building this site!

Me, I am still in Philly, at the same house for 5 years now.

We just got a new truck (new to us) Toyota Tacoma…. I love it!

So how old are the boys, how many do you have now?

Talk to you soon Love you, Dawn

Bruce - Hey Dawn - Sorry for the slow response. Things have been insanely busy not to mention extremely stressful at work. My boss was fired not too long after your email and I have been reeling since. Things are now starting to settle down just a little after a grueling few months.

Lisa and I have three boys now - (kids name witheld) 9, (kids name witheld) 7, and (kids name witheld) (20 months).

As for all this other stuff, frankly, I don't know what to say. I feel you have cut me off more than I have cut you off. My number hasn't changed. I don't know what I said to cause it other than being honest with you that I thought you had pushed things too hard. I think you sometimes want me (as does mom) to take sides, but that isn't what I want to do. I value each relationship on for its own. It's ashamed that you don't get along, but I think there is alot of love and a little blame on all sides. Mom and Dad aren't going to change and I doubt you will either very much. They do love you and have tried their best in their way.

I have always tried to be there for you, as well as Goldi and Keith. I wouldn't be too hurt you haven't gotten an email from me. I don't think I have sent one to Keith or Goldi in the last seven years or so. Goldi and I don't talk too often and I only see Keith a couple of times each year, mainly because they live between mom and us. I would like to see everyone more often, but I think this is just part of living apart and being at a time in all our lives where making a living and raising kids consumes most of our time and energy.

Anyway, you are not alone in this world . Your family still loves you and will always be there for you.

Love, Bruce

I still haven't responded to this email..... and still can not find the words.... my sister, partner and myself..... DO NOT WANT TO RESPOND...... but still a part of me wants to reach out.... wants to capture that thing i know i cant find here...... and really it is simple.... the words...... Your family still loves you and will always be there for you. everything else in these emails for me (sorry selfish), does not bring a tear to my eye..... doesn't make me want to respond...... GOD(ess) HOW I WANT TO RESPOND with just those words........ (disconnecting from the fantasy)

Harsh reality - this is nothing but an opppppps..... I mistook you for another Dawn........ CRAPPIDY CRAP CRAP............

"What's Your Name BIATCH"

2009-07-18T00:17:00.000-04:00

Quick little note on the crappidy crap crap..... I am tired of simply putting up with the crappidy crap crap, from my homophobic family that refuses to simply SEE that they SUCK SUPER BIG BALL.

Note from me mother.... whom I haven't spoken too in 7 years..... long time..... guess you forget shit in such a long time.........

Someone from Ohio called yesterday and asked for me. Asked me if I knew you. And I told them no. And they said you had out me down for a contact. The truth of the matter is I was taking a nap and when the phone rang I saw it was from Ohio and when they said Dawn I thought they meant DON. Then later on in the day I thought they were probably referring to you.

My response to the Crappidy crap crap.........

Well, my name is Dawn... and that might be whom they were referring to... I find it hard that you cant remember your own daughters name..... Hi, Nice to meet you... I am your daughter.... Dawn..... or Don, ..... goodness... how the years fly by, and how much I have learned..... one thing I will never forget, is your name!

ps...... my brand spanking new neighbor...... like so seriously new I never did meet him ( my partner did and mentioned my name "biatch" or Dawn, or Don....... and guess what..... that son of a biatch new neighbor who never seen this pretty little face..... knew my m'fing.... mother trucking.... kiss my freaking ass NAME...... (do I sound angry...... it might be because I am!!!!! BIATCH!!!!) My sister is sitting on the phone egging my BIATCH ass on.... BIATCHES

The Incredibly True adventure of Two girls in love. Lesbian Movie Review Film Review 5 stars

2009-07-17T16:22:00.000-04:00

The Incredibly True adventure of Two girls in love.

This had to be the first lesbian movie I watched, or rather the first one that made me excited about being a lesbian. I always imagined that my high school years would look something like this if, I had the balls (ovaries) to ever ask my crushes out on a date or even utter the appearance of liking them like that.

Randy Dean – first of all what a name, “Randy Dean” it is just the coolest name around and what is even better is that this character Is played by a very young Laurel Holloman (Tina from The L-Word). The character is tough and dirty under the nails. This is just how I was at that age, a tomboy if not an obvious “Lesbian” on site. And her aunt is a mechanic lesbian, and Randy works at her garage. “Just a Normal Typical, lesbo household”

Eva Roy – Played by Nicole Parker, has anyone seen how hot she is lately. Such a cute match these two, and how they met, is just adorable Eva, pulls up to Randy’s aunt’s garage and needs some maintenance on her Land Rover “There is something wrong with my car, I think it is the back tire, can you look at it for me” “I just can’t put air in the tires, cause I think it is going to blow up in my face” (Ps Love that truck) and the goggle eyes ensue.

Frank – is played by Nelson Rodriguez, he is so adorable, picking up after his best friend the lesbian.

The Plot – The movie starts off with Randy Dean making out with her lover/ married lover. This woman seems to be twice her age, and married (why is it that all lesbian movies evolve the lesbian sleeping with a married woman). The plot is one that just seems to flow seamlessly. From the interdiction of the main character Randy Dean, to the meeting of Randi and Eva, and the drama that ensues with the families.

Characters – This is a highshool lesbian film, and the characters are believable. My favorite is Randy’s aunt who reminds me of every old head butch I have ever met, tough and rough around the edges, and constantly trying to steer the young ones in the right direction. Very endearing qualities when you look back at all the women who have steered us in the same direction.

My Favorite part of the movie – Eva’s mom is away for the weekend and the young lovers decide to make it a lovers get away. Then when her mother comes back early and catches them two, they run away to a stinky hotel room, and the fighting starts. Its your fault, its your fault, its your! Then Randy’s Aunt calls Frank, and is commissioned to track randy down. So he calls Eva’s house expecting to Randy to be there, and surprise Eva’s mom answers (this part is freaking hilarious)…… Back and forth back and forth, Eva’s mom, Randy’s Aunt, Frank, and all of Eva’s friends find each other and go on a hunt for the cute little couple. Once they find the hotel room. The movie ends with them drowning out the screams of everyone outside (hilariously screaming) and just hold hands and walk outside just staring into each other’s eyes. CUTE

FIVE STARS – Unbelievable cute movie, the plot is adorable, the characters are fun and it is a love story that I have seen play out in my life time and time again (Not me, well maybe once or twice LOL, but almost every lesbian knows a lesbian who have seen this kind of drama play out)

If you haven’t seen it, go rent it, buy it or even try to find it online (I see it pop up every now and again) YOUR GOING TO LOVE IT.

Gay marriage bill signed into law in New Hampshire

2009-06-04T00:42:00.000-04:00

Great News!!!!!!! Another State legalized gay Marriage!!! YAY!!!

Gay marriage bill signed into law in New Hampshire

By NORMA LOVE, AP
Wed Jun 3, 11:23 PM EDT

New Hampshire became the sixth state to legalize gay marriage Wednesday in a move that reflects the state's changing demographics from reliably Republican and conservative to younger and more liberal.

The Senate and House passed key language on religious rights, Gov. John Lynch — who personally opposes gay marriage — signed the legislation Wednesday afternoon.

Lynch, a Democrat, had promised a veto if the law didn't clearly spell out that churches and religious groups would not be forced to officiate at gay marriages or provide other services. Legislators made the changes.

"Today, we are standing up for the liberties of same-sex couples by making clear that they will receive the same rights, responsibilities — and respect — under New Hampshire law," Lynch said.

Massachusetts, Connecticut, Maine, Vermont and Iowa already allow gay marriage, though opponents hope to overturn Maine's law with a public vote.

California briefly allowed gay marriage before a public vote banned it; a court ruling grandfathered in couples who were already married.

Lynch said it is now time for the federal government to extend full equal rights to same-sex couples.

After rallies outside the Statehouse by both sides in the morning, the last of three bills in the package went to the Senate, which approved it 14-10 Wednesday afternoon.

Cheers from the gallery greeted the key vote in the House, which passed it 198-176. Surrounded by gay marriage supporters, Lynch signed the bill about an hour later.

The New Hampshire law will take effect Jan. 1, exactly two years after the state began recognizing civil unions.

The Rt. Rev. V. Gene Robinson, elected in New Hampshire in 2003 as the first openly gay bishop in the Episcopal Church, was among those celebrating the new law.

"It's about being recognized as whole people and whole citizens," Robinson said.

"There are a lot of people standing here who when we grew up could not have imagined this," he said. "You can't imagine something that is simply impossible. It's happened, in our lifetimes."

Opponents objected on grounds including the fragmented process.

"It is no surprise that the Legislature finally passed the last piece to the gay marriage bill today. After all, when you take 12 votes on five iterations of the same issue, you're bound to get it passed sooner or later," said Kevin Smith, executive director of gay marriage opponent Cornerstone Policy Research.

The revised bill clarified that church-related organizations that serve charitable or educational purposes are exempt from having to provide insurance and other benefits to same-sex spouses of employees.

The House rejected the language Lynch suggested two weeks ago by two votes. Wednesday's vote was on a revised bill negotiated with the Senate.

"The pro-gay marriage people have been very disingenuous," said Fenton Groen, 59, of Rochester, N.H. "They told us two years ago that if civil unions were passed, that would completely satisfy them. Within two years, they have completely changed their minds."

Supporters had considered Wednesday their last chance to pass a bill this year.

Rob Davis of Concord and his partner of 27 years, Dean Davis, were in the jubilant crowd outside afterward.

They had a civil union last year.

"It didn't go far enough," Rob Davis said of their civil union. "We're real happy."

New Hampshire's decision leaves Rhode Island as the only New England state not to allow same-sex marriages. A bill there is expected to fail this year, as similar ones have in previous years.

Gay Marriage Sticker

2009-05-28T18:06:00.000-04:00

Thank you to Miss Kris for finding the link posted below. Everyone needs to get one of these stickers to show their support for the states where gay/lesbian marriage isn't legal yet. With enough support hopefully in the years to come you'll be able to get married in any state no matter who your with.

Dear friend,

After a lot of years of devastating setbacks in the fight for marriage equality, it seems like we're finally moving in the right direction. With marriage legal in Massachusetts, Connecticut, Iowa, Vermont and Maine, and the fights going strong in New Hampshire, New York and California, this movement is gaining more momentum every day, and I'm excited to be a part of it.

To that end, I wanted to let you know that CREDO Action is giving away some awesome stickers about supporting gay marriage - I think you'd really like them. I just got mine - if you have a minute, click this link to check out the stickers and get one of your own (for free!).

https://act.credoaction.com/stickers/?r_by=-2057581-gZWs5xx&rc=fb7

Thanks!

Fried Green Tomatoes 1991 Lesbian Film Movie Review 5 Stars

2009-05-06T13:10:00.000-04:00

Fried Green Tomatoes 1991 (Movie) and Fried Green Tomatoes at the Whistle Stop Café 1987 (Book)

Lesbian Movie, yes, no, maybso – Lesbianism was a theme in the novel (Fried Green Tomatoes at the Wh istle Stop Café), as the relationship between Idgie and Ruth was accepted by the entire town of Whistle Stop. Although it was not labeled a lesbian relationship, every resident

knew about Idgie and Ruth, accepted it, and loved them for who they were. This relationship was minimized in the film version of "Fried Green Tomatoes" when the events placed Ruth and Buddy Threadgoode together, and Idgie

was much younger than Ruth, suggesting that Ruth loved Idgie because she was Buddy's sister. Many reviews of the film version critiqued what was viewed as a "glossing over" of this theme, although the film received an award from the Gay & Lesbian Alliance against Defamation (GLAAD).

This movie will have you on a roller coaster ride, of laughing crying and taking deep breaths from shock. I watch

ed this film back in 1995, and I was hooked, every time I wanted to share a movie with someone this was the top of my list.

True Story, I was living in New Hampshire, in college, and it was a movie night with some of my friends most of them had never seen the movie before so of course I was off to the Movie rental store to pick it up. On my way there, I have to drive under an over pass for rail road tracks. And as I drove under, “Splat” something hits my windshield. I didn’t take much notice as what seemed to be an apple dangled from my windshield wiper after doing their job of getting most of the gunk off so I could see. I pulled into the movie rental place and went inside and asked them to call the police, because if it was apples they were going to bust someone’s windshield. I rented my movie and then went out to my car to wait for the police. As I get to the car I decide to look and see what it was they threw….. At this point you can probably figure out what was tossed from the over pass…… GREEN TOMATOE….. Freaking weird…. Just the tomatoes factor would have been weird enough, but the fact that it was thrown from rail road tracks makes it even weirder! (If you have seen the movie, you know that one of the main things about whistle stop cafe is that the towns economy is based on the tracks that run there it, not to mention the accident that happens (I won’t give that away)

Another True story – About 3 years later, I am at Boston Pride, and as me and my friends are walking back to one of their houses, we have to go through what I was told is the Italian part of town. And as we are walking I see a woman in the distance and she is looking right at me. She is standing with 2 guys and another woman in the doorway of a restaurant. I think to myself who the heck is this, did I go to school with her, do I know her from back home, and is it someone I met…. The face of the (PS freaking gorgeous woman, tall, confident) was so familiar. As I get closer she is still looking at me, and I am thinking who the hell is this. By this time my pals are on the other side of the street. As I walk past her alone, she says “Hi”, and I say “Hey, how are you.” She says “Good”, and I walk past, quickly crossing the street to join my friends who are all staring at me like my hair was on fire. And at that precise moment I realize, that I had just walked past Mary Stuart Masterson. I kept my cool and acted like I had no clue, my friends on the other hand lost their minds. Needless to say, that was the talk of our group of friends for months.

I now have this movie on VHS, and DVD, and it is one of those movies that I could watch over and over and over again.

My Rating for this movie – Surprise, Surprise!!!! Is 5 stars.

The characters are strong, the references to the past present and future are refreshing, and the actors are impeccable in their delivery. If you haven’t seen this movie you are missing out, you should buy it rent it and watch it over and over and over again.

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Living with my Lesbian Sister 4Months and 2Weeks

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Ok so this past weekend was kind of interesting. My sister's partner is on a lesbian softball team. And this Sunday they had to run the concession stand for the whole league. And it was also opening day for the league. It was so much work. Since is was opening day we had to have a lot food, and a lot of options of food and beverages. And I was asked to help. I really thought I was going to be uncomfortable be around and basically in the lesbian and gay like world. So a couple of teammates came over on Saturday night to help get everything together for the concession stand on Sunday. And to tell you the truth I was really uncomfortable then. Maybe because I didn't know anyone. I just didn't want to be like hit on. And that seems wrong to think, because it didn't happen. I guess I'm obviously the straight girl. So there was my two roommates and me and four girls from the team. We were drinking the whole day and night. So I have to say it wasn't bad. A lot the conversation topics we different to me. Some a little uncomfortable. One of the girls had slept over and that wasn't bad. We were up kind late Saturday night just talking and waiting for the baking to be done. I heard and learned a lot. A one of the girls had come out later in life, rather than earlier in life, just like my sister. And another girl was straight also, she has a son. Some one the girls were telling a little bit of their story, it was interesting.
So we had to be at the field mad early on Sunday morning. And of course we were late. My sister was still drunk in the morning... so funny! So we loaded it both cars and got there and unloaded. I decided to go back home is get some stuff and try and wake up. Anyway when I got back to the field they were all set up and weren't really busy yet. But I got there and jumped right into helping. I wasn't at all uncomfortable just helping out, for no benefit to me. All the girls were really nice to me. It was nice to have already met a few of them the night before. Since it is a gay and lesbian league, there were a lot of gay men there too. They were to funny and nice. Most of them called me sweetheart and honey. One guy was a cross dresser all dressed up like a lady, with the green wig and all. But I have to say gay or not those men drink a lot of beer. We went though 11 cases of beer. And sold all our hamburgers by like one in the afternoon. We were so busy for a long while. But it was a learning experience and I got to hang out with my sister for the whole day. That's never a bad thing I got to be in here world for the day. Be the supportive sister, it was fun. An unexpected fun.
To be continued.................

Imagine Me & You 2005 Lesbian Film Review 5 Stars

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“Imagine Me & You” – Five Stars all around. Ok let’s just say that when this movie started I thought I was going to be sorely disappointed with the outcome but at movie end I had tears welling up in my eyes for many different reasons. READ ON.

Relationships:

The Girls – Played by Piper Perabo (Rachel) and Lena Headey (Luce). The relationship begins innocently enough except I knew from the first glance that they were going to be together. Oddly enough it was when Rachel is walking down the aisle to be married that they first exchanged this glance. The florist for the wedding Luce, caught her eye and then a budding friendship ensues, in which both Rachel and her husband become dear friends of Luce. The chemistry is perfect and is believable.

The Married Couple – Played by Piper Perabo (Rachel) and Matthew Goode (Heck) this couple is so adorable together, and I just love the character Heck. He is concerned about their relationship when he realizes that something is going on with his new bride. And he trys to make it better, he is very attentive. He doesn’t even think that it could be another person. When she finally tells him about his lover Luce (well they hadn’t had sex yet, only a short make out session), she also tells him that the relationship with Luce is over. But he takes it upon himself to say that he simply does not want to stand in the way of her happiness, and he wants her to follow her heart. (What do you think she does)

The Parents – Her parents are played by Celia Imrie (Tess) and Anthony Head (Ned), the mother is oddly funny, but in a way that makes you glad that she is on the big screen and not at your house. The father is a timid shy man who is easily manipulated by his overbearing wife. You would think that when Rachel tells her parents, by accident provoked by a scene where Heck leaves Rachel and says he can’t stand in her way. She comes back to explain her situation to her parents and her father says that if his wife had fallen in love as she had, that he loves her mother as Heck loves Rachel and he could never stand in her way. So the race is on for Rachel to get Luce back! With her parents and Luce’s mother in tow, they are off to find her true love.

Film Quality :

This is a movie that has the quality of any movie you might find coming out of Hollywood. The very first scene they take you from the front of a Rolls Royce covered with flowers, and pan up to the church. Then there is a camera angle when you watch Rachel walk down the aisle and then it pans to her view of Luce. You will not be disappointed with the Film Quality, and the flow of the movie.

My Rating :

This movie all around is just perfect, the only issue I might every have with it is the moral dilemma of being a cheater. But that was easily subsided by the fact that they didn’t go all the way and Rachel was always trying to stop herself. And she came clean with Heck. So A Big Old 5 for this movie. This is a definite buy and an absolute rent!!!!

CHEERS!!!!

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